Alcoholism Support Group

Hey Nancy glad your here. Congrats on 14, the good thing about your past sobriety ya know its doable, I like you had to tame some of those glaring defects of character.

Sounds like your on the right path, keep the wiliness and acceptance and follow a little direction.

Peace be the journey.

Welcome. Thanks for sharing that.
I've got 15 months sober in AA. I'm terrified of returning to the life I used to lead. It didnt look different on the outside but was terrifying, lonely, demoralizing on the inside.
I try to stick to the middle of my program. I talk to my sponsor, I pray, I meditate, I read the BB and other literature, I take a daily inventory, I sponsor, and I listen to speakers when I run
Here is one I love http://xa-speakers.org/pafiledb.php...
Little stuff alone, but together its made for a powerful enough program to keep me happily sober a day at a time. I try to stay in today too.

planned events of drinking is what your referring to as slips...we did something that made it our plan to go out and drink...I firmly believe that! we could have given up on going to meetings, which is usually the biggest one I have seen of people who return to drink...or stopped calling sponsors...or speaking to hp/ GOD on daily basis in prayers.... all of having these things going on are things that have lead others out of the rooms into bars or bottles....but they plan them by stopping doing those things that we know work! it is great your here and welcome to DS alcoholism group....I hope you grab onto the things that will keep you sober and make no effort to stop doing them ever again...you have something I never will have...children and grandchildren...

hugs bill

Hello Nancy,

There is not much to be added to what stickywick has said because it is through constant action that you will find lasting sobriety.

You can identify with the drinking stories at meetings and at the back of the Big Book but what you really need is to be found in the first 164 pages of the B.B. Now that you have gone through the Steps with your sponsor it is a matter of building on what you have learned and putting it into practice bit by bit. It takes many years to learn the bad habits that lead to trouble with alcohol so it will take a while to learn new ones too.

Google ‘Joe and Charlie’ and you will find amazing resources that will make the journey easier.

My only thought is why do you keep relapsing? Some people say there is no reason except they are alcoholic, but I have also heard that unresolved issues are the cause for relapse. For me, I think the latter.

Today I can recognize that my desire to drink is a symptom. Either I have not been working the steps in AA or there is something else that I want escape from. I relapsed constantly for a few years, only accumulating months here and there, until I really got steps 1-3.

I have 16 mos sober now and still struggle with a desire to escape sometimes. I feel that empty void and life just seems pointless which is when I need to look at what is causing that. Some say my spiritual condition is not right but I do the best I can with that. I am also in therapy to address some of the reasons that void is there. I have also worked very hard to eliminate things like anger, isolation, and dishonesty that often led to wanting to drink.

Not sure if that helps. Just keep trying and try something a little different this time.

Here's an article I received today on relapse...

http://alcoholism.about.com/od/rela...

Thank-You all for your support as I cannot seem to get enough this time around something different reaching out also put silkworth .net on my phone when driving I can listen to joe and charlie and the bigbook geet a laugh or two as well as some much needed information about this disease my brain keeps telling me I do not have LOL as long as I do not pick up that first drink attend my meetings and enjoy my sobriety I feel I can have a lifetime of sobriety it may not be easy but I sooo know it is wortth it Anyhoot 15 days today O.D.A.A.T.

i dont think there is no "avoiding" a relapse, but that is just me. if you ain't done, you ain't done, trust me

Ramblin. Stop posting drunk!

No way to avoid relapse-yea I guess not. Gonna go die now yall-no way to avoid it I guess.

EESH why am I answering him? Ok nite.

Carry on, sorry.

cause theres not really. once the relapse mentality sets it, its gonna happen period