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sobriety! I work with a man who may have OCD, he is always worrying and thinking he is gonna die or he is alway's moving back to Oklahoma but actually never does it. He has some kind of issue, my question is how do you deal with this type of behavior in the workplace? The boss's know about it, but they like him so they will keep him, but sometimes it get's a little too stressful, I try and reinforce some positive thoughts but doesn't work with this man.
Posted on 10/28/09, 10:10 pm |
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When he makes a statement ask him if it is "absolutely true?". If he answers in the afirmative, then paraphrase his answer in a way by saying, "so, it is absolutely true that you are going to die?"
Next , ask him, " Can you absolutely know that it's true?" If not sure... Then ask one of these types of questions, "How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? The next question might be to ask, " who would you be without the thought, "I think I'm gonna die", or "I think I might be dying?". The following information comes from a writer and therapist 'Byron Katie', Check out her website: http://www.thework.com/thework.asp#2 
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Thanks for the posts, I don't know what it is but it just seems like some people can be nuts as hell and not lose there job's while the rest of us really have to watch ourself in this time of bad economy.
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He really believes he is gonna die soon. There isn't anyting I can do about it except ignore it. Think he suffers from alot of anxiety also and not taking any meds, he also has diabetes and eats junk food and diet soda's all day, so it is no wonder he is a mess.
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my sponsor gave me some real good advice once he said Dave just cause someone is whirling doesnt mean i have to get in thier and whirl with them. I took that too heart and didnt have to whirl in anothers insanity or delusion. For me if the guy isnt asking for help then trying to help someon who isnt asking can have the complete opposite effect on them and turn them away and ruin a future opportunity. Thats my exp with this. So my question is is this guy asking for help?
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though it's trying for you to work with him, the guy is disabled mentally and I'd say your compassion is called for. Kudos to your bosses for giving him the opportunity to support himself.
when he gets difficult to bear, if possible take a break away to center yourself. you sound like a kind hearted person, and this guy is bound to test that. every day you can work with him speaks well for you. and I do believe what goes around comes around.
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It's not your job to fix this man. He has his own journey and struggles in life. Remain a positive influence but don't have the expectation for him to change due to your good intentions. You don't have that power or control. Accept him as he is and surrender this situation either your HP or in general. Expectation is a resentment under construction. You don't want that hindering your peace.You can be free of this problem if you will allow yourself to be. Acceptance will take us a long way.
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