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No, you're not...and I would ask him to speak to the doctor about his meds (antidepressants, as you know, can really kill the mood and ability) and how to tweak them so you can get your sex life back on track.

Well, for the long run, no you have a valid point with your concern here. But if his anti-depressants are working, leave be and see for a bit. Let your husband get stable and your relationship get in gear. Nothing is set in stone-don't worry about too much right now.

Sometimes the person may be on too high of a dose and it can be lowered. Also, he may want to speak to his doc about medication for depression that does not have the sexual side effects. There are some that are better than others. This is very fixable.

There are a lot of different types of anti-depressants -some have sexual side effects to a greater degree than others. If he needs to be on them, then you might consider trying some other types - and your doctor should be aware of the side effects and be able to make recommendations.

The only other thing I'll bring up is that a lot of people are diagnosed with depression while they are still drinking or right when they first try to get sober. This can be an unreliable diagnosis because most people are depressed at this point in their lives......they alcohol chemically messes you up. After a sober period of time, you should consult with the doctor about whether he truly needs the meds.

But once again, if you do the research you'll find which ones have fewer sexual side effects than others.

me and my partner had a extremely active sex life even when i was drinking i have just done a 3 week stint in rehab and am now sober and i too am on a lot of medication and unfortunatly it does affect sex drive and libido even though im still extremely emotionally attached to my partner i too am finding relations difficult and somewhat painful, we are just going to take each day as it comes try different things before like romantic settings, sensual massages or just exploring each other before attempting intercourse, if the problem persists for a long time id suggest that your partner went to his doctor and try a different medication, hope this helps u r not alone.

luv sassy xx

Hi , thanks for sharing that, its not easy, but well done to your hub for staying sober. I'm really not sure what the worse thing is, to be the alcoholic or the person watching and hurting.
The anti-deps he is on may be too strong, so some advice from the Dr will be needed. Is he extra tired? I wonder how long has he been on them? They can take up to 6 weeks to work. Your husband will be experiencing so many changes, his main one, staying away from a drink for a day. As much as we would really like our relationship to get back on form, its not always that easy. Just keep telling your husband how proud you are of him, lots of hugs and kisses and that you love him and support him. I know when I was in early recovery, I really appreciated that. Talk to him aswell, see if there is anything he wants to tell you, he may be like my hub and keeps his feelings to himself, if so, not easy. Time is a great healer, just stick with it, unconditional love is a wonderful thing, the sex will come back when the time is right, don't push him, just accept he's going thru alot of stuff. God Bless, keep well xx