What is Alcoholism
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My husband has not had a drink for 1 month. He stopped because we had a family crisis last month in which alcholol played a big role.
Now he's irritable frequently getting mad about trivial things. He's befriended a fellow with music intrests and is a recoverying alcoholic. Sits in a room listening to music as soon as he gets home from work. Spends alot of his time with this fellow. They are not drinking. We've barely spoken about anything on an emotional level. Not even about him stopping drinking (just I'm not drinking alone anymore). Not affectionate either. Says I'm boring because I only want to watch TV. I feel very shut out. NOW WHAT? Posted on 10/18/09, 10:10 am |
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you need to look after you get your life back first then you might be in a positoion to help him .try go to some meetings whether alanon try AA Do you drink yourself.There is so mucy not known but look after you first than u might beable to help look ater him till he finds his waybut who knows as a drunk my self I used any small thing to blow up that justived me going out to get drunk that is one of the faviorit things we do so it is not you rember that it is him so donot let his insults bring u down he is the one with the problem sounds like it to me 
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Now What? Did you stomp your foot at us too?
Get a life...quit watching him for gawd's sake Develop interests Join Al-anon...a more more appropriate place then here. Make plans on being single....it's a coming Counseling for you
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mindlight-phew take it easy! breath
You know, they say that it can be a mourning period for some alkis at the beginning-like they are losing a lover or a best friend when giving up the booze. Perhaps he is mourning... Whatever the case may be, don't worry about him right now. Now what? Well, do you like to watch tv or is it boring for you too? If not-then in one ear and out the other-enjoy tv and let him be for now. You need to take care of Karen. It has only been one month-just let it roll and see if he gets his act together. You do not base your life and happiness on this though Karen. Make some friends yourself to watch tv while he listens to music maybe? Or better yet-get out of the house and have some enjoyment of your own. See if he wants to join you-be a beacon of light.
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Hi Karen,
If you aren't a drinker yourself I recommend reading How Alanon Works, for families and friends of alcoholics. And if your husband has the book Alcoholics Anonymous and is beginning a program, you could read about what he's up to. There is a chapter to families and wives in there too. Anyhow the rest of the advise here I think is the best we can do. Good luck. It's hard at first but it's worth it. By the way I was miserable for the first couple years!
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I suggest go to meetings (AA), it's the only thing that I know of that get's alcoholics on the right track. If you start tripping on him, you will need to get to alanon, cause that will just make things worse and you will keep sabotaging each other, and keep the vicious cycle going. You can always do couples counseling if you want it to work, if you don't do nothing and it will all take care of itself.
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