Alcoholism Support Group

We were both social drinkers too humbled, but my alcoholism was mine to own. My spouse didn't have a problem with it, I did. And I was the one who needed to seek help, for me. It's your journey Humbled, but it need not be alone. :}

I'm sorry for the loss of your Mother. I lost mine when I was 19, it's hard yeah, but she's living in your heart now, and she'll always be there. God bless. CM xxx

I do realize this is your journey however, I went toa 21 day re. rehab (which at the time I did not utilize to it's full potential because quitting was a new concept for me) and when I returned home my common-law was drinking in front of me and the rum bottle (sort of okay as I do not drink hard liquor) on the kitchen counter. Took about a week and my personal strenght went away.

We finally realized (I have relapsed approx 6 times...that in EARLY recovery it is probablyl safer not to be exposed to it in your "safe" place meaning your home. Down the road you can learn life skills in being exposed to it socially...just my experience...think it over.

Today is a new day. If he is not willing to take a break for now from drinking for your sake, then you will have to choose not to join him. Very difficult indeed.

I would ask him to help support me at this time and that hopefully one day it wouldn't bother me to have him or others drinking around me. I would also say that my life is dependent upon dealing with this issue NOW. Get out of the house when he is drinking and find a meeting or friend instead if he is not willing to help you. If he won't change, then you have to be the one to take action...or die one day a very slow and painful death.

Thank you so much for your help and responses...It is so good to be able to come here...

When you get humbled enough step into some AA meetings you will definately need it, and I told my spouse if you want to drink the relationship is done. You need to have someone in your life that respects your decision at least until you get strong enough that it won't bother you and that takes time. to me its not enabling its just plain rude. But the thing is when you are really ready nobody will be able to stand in your way of staying sober.

Tell him to drink grape juice. There is noni juice and other juices in natural supplement stores that is way better for you then red wine, it's usually just an excuse he may have a problem also.

Alcoholism is a deadly disease. Show your husband The Doctors Opinion in the book Alcoholics Anonymous. His behavior is not just rude, it's life threatening.

I believe your Mom is right there with you, possibly trying to comfort you. We will all be of the spirit world one day. If I'm sober and willing to believe that I know not, I can tune in to that possibility. When I'm drunk I'm just way too self involved. I will die one day too and I hope my kids aren't drunk and unable to feel my subtle vibrations. It could be very frustrating being a spirit! :)

My exhusband died fron alcohol poisoning 5 years ago :(

Thank you for saying it like it is...thats what I needed to hear...I realize I am drinking bc thats' what I have done all my life..I came from a dysfunctional family..suffered sexual abuse , married two dysfuntional men and now this is # 3...I do believe he enjoys the a "beer" he says..I don't know that he has a prob..I know I do...
I am bck on my antidepressant and will head out to a meeting soon..thnks everyone...humbled

I have to add to that I am not ready to stand in front of a group of people no matter how kind or supportive they r...for my depression, alcohol abuse or other abuse...this is my first step and I pray to God every day to help me get stronger...I won't get into whining...but I do have a plate and a half ful...and since my drinking is self medication for my pain, I realize this will be a process..I have tried to go cold turkey..it wrks for a bit..then out of the blue..I get side blinded and have wine or whatever..of course I am remorseful..but I am not one to give up......thank you again for all your help...I truly appreciate it from my heart...I asked and you are helping me...thanks again....I remain humbled