Alcoholism Support Group

Have you tried a different type of program?

Just do it. Tons of lazy, anxious depressives in AA who manage to get sober. How badly do you want it? That's the question.

According to your profile status, you are not to depressed or anxious to got to work or hold down a job. If you can that daily, why can't you got to a meeting?

Hello dore1521,

I can’t advise you as someone ‘that has been in and out of the program’ but I was someone who didn’t want to have anything to do with the programme – any programme for that matter. For me, the gradual loss of control over alcohol was bringing about an increase in depression in a roughly equal measure and God only knows where that would have led had I kept drinking.

When things got bad enough I didn’t need any drive to go to meetings and when I saw what was available at those meetings I think that I would have walked for miles if necessary in order to get there. Before that I would have found a hundred good reasons to avoid having anything to do with AA and maybe that is what you’re doing now. You have to really want sobriety in order to make this thing work and if you don’t want it bad enough you will find plenty of obstacles.

I am not too fond of those AA slogans but one that comes to mind here is: “Keep it Simple”. You don’t have to get a sponsor straight away, although that would certainly help. You don’t have to have a great rapport with anyone but that too would help. All you need to do, to borrow another slogan is: “Suit up and turn up”. Put your bum on the seat and put on your listening ears and if you don’t find what you’re looking for, it will find you.

Aussie I have not tried any other type of program besides AA. Who I agree completely and guess how much I want it. I always hear "I finally hit my low" and wonder have I hit my low? The fear is if I say no is my low going to be death. Scarlet, thanks for the stern words. Yes I do get up to go work sometimes. I am just returning after being on disability for the depression but I know here there is no such thing as an EXCUSE so I don't use that as one. I guess I honestly just haven't looked hard enough or said to myself, "This is it or you lose everything" My problem is I hide it so well or so I think. I have been sober now for at least a month but have decided that yesterday would be my first official day of sobriety and that I would go to some meetings in the week. PJ it really it me when you said if I'm listening and don't find what I need it will find me. I think I'm just going to go into a meeting and be silent and try to talk it all in. I appreciate everyone's input so far and will continue to push myself and hit Bill W.'s door before the end of the week. Is it a bad thing to not do 90 in 90 days?