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If they are your real friends, they will want you around regardless. Stay with them if it is cool and separate yourself if it is just a "let's get wasted" party!

I actually know how I think you might feel. I surrounded myself with lots of friends who drank like I drank. At least they seemed to. So I didnt look like such a drunk.
Problem was when I got sober, they were still into drinking and wondered what the hell was up with me?
I've had to cut back the way I socialize, as my drinking was often disguised as socializing.

sometimes I think my son's friends liked that he was the biggest jerk when they all got drunk...it made them look not so bad. He was the one getting in trouble, arrested, kicked out of school or teams....so they were fine...NOT.
part of it, no offense, is immaturity on their part. You have to do what is right for you, and if they can't respect that, then they are not good friends. You might be their excuse to screw up...if it wasn't you, they would use someone else as an excuse.
Part of being mature is knowing when it is time to walk away from a situation.

sometimes it is better to be alone and wanting than to be with them and regretting.

I cut the drinking friends out of my equation to stay sober myself....I was older than you I think as I was 37 then....but I had my socialize with drinking buddies that had BBQ drunkfest on their minds every weekend....it ended and I stayed sober and had a lot of fun with new friends in AA.....give them the heave hoe and walk away from the good times they want you to have which we know is drunken bad times for us....

I know from experience that heavy drinkers stick together like glue and do no want anyone to mess with their party. Do a little experiment. Ask one of your old drinking buddies to do an activity that does not require alcohol. If the drinking buddies make fun of you or try and get you to drink, you know they have a serious alcohol problem. I would stay away from anyone incapable of having fun without drugs/alcohol.

These people do not have the maturity to accept or more importantly, understand. You may have to stay away from these people until you are stronger in sobriety.
Do you have a plan for recovery?

I got sober (and have stayed that way) in AA - have you tried that or are you looking around for other programmes? If you think I can help at all just pm me.

Good to have you here

Lyn

They sound like shitty friends. Perhaps they're not friends at all but just drinking buddies. Distance yourself if it helps you stay sober.

I never liked the taste of liquor so I drank cokes or iced tea - no one ever said a word about it. I partied with everyone - some got drunk over the years, but I just stuck with what I like.

It doesn't matter what you are drinking, this is about control - not a group of friends, sorry. You will find a friend or two who are interested in sports, projects, etc. 14 is too young to be drinking anyhow.

Be cool & don't drink - If I had a second chance at your age, I wouldn't drink!