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I'm sixteen and I have albinism. It's weird: Being an albino never used to bother me that much. I didn't care what people thought or said about me. I've even stopped dying my hair, just to show my 'true colors', haha.

But what's really bothering me lately, as I enter the midst of junior year in high school, is the fact that I'm left out. At fifteen, most of my friends got their permits. At the beginning of junior year, all my friends turned sixteen. They started borrowing their parents' cars, driving to school, driving to the mall, driving to parties, driving driving driving everywhere. All anyone can talk about is how AMAZING it is to have a license. They talk about the new cars they'll get, the road trips they'll take.

And me. I'm left out. My eyesight is so weak that I won't be able to drive ever. I can't chat happily about drivers ed or cars, because I know I'll never be able to experience it. I'll never taste the sheer independence and freedom of transportation. I'll be a pedestrian.

It's not so much the fact that I can't drive, it's also the fact that my friends all can. I'm such a hardworking student, I try to be nice to people, i think I'm a good person, why don't i deserve to drive?

How can I stop feeling so left out? How can I get over this problem? It's making me sadder and sadder. Each day, I see my friends getting into their cars and driving off. That'll never be me. So what should I do?
Posted on 10/30/11, 12:54 pm
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Reply #1 - 08/11/14  10:02pm
" I know you had posted a few years ago, but I really hope things are going good for you. Good luck and I really do understand. It doesn't get easier as you get older. You just have to adapt and accept what is. I know, easier said then done. I still struggle with not driving. Although I am blessed with enough vision that I could drive, I choose not to. Hope you update sometime. I would love to hear if you went to collage and such. Best wishes! "
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Reply #2 - 03/16/15  10:19am
" Hi there I hope that you are feeling better about the car issue. My niece, who is in her 30's, married with two children has gone through similar situations and has had many of the concerns that you have. At your age and with your friends at school driving, I'm sure you do feel left out but maybe you can find something else to do with your other friends who not drive, like volunteering on a weekend day or something fun for yourself. My guess is you will be fine, just hang in there. You are doing the right thing by reaching out. "

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