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Are guys perverts? or is it just me....
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I cannot maintain relationships with my guy friends, because I can't
hang out with them without victimizing myself and thinking that my guy friends are sexually interested in me (sexually objectifying me) or just interested in me in general (like want to be bf and gf). So i always have a hard time opening myself to them even in situations where I barely even have girl friends I can rely on. (I don't really get along with girls anyway, because I feel jealous around them often or feel like they are too gossipy or catty) What's wrong with me :( why do I keep getthing is kind of impressions from guys? Could this maybe because I've never had a healthy relationship with my exes? (one of them was verbally, mentally abusive, another manipulative guy, and the last one cheated on me with many different girls, not to mention my first bf who left me for being so clingy, which turned out that he cheated on me with my best friend) I've seen some guys I encountered in the past who are so suspicious and i witnessed them cheating on their girls (one of them lied to me to have sex) Why do guys seem like falling into two categories? goodlooking, attractive, outgoing guys who treat women like they are blowup dolls. Or socially awkward, unsuccessful guys who are super nice but also seem like... secretly super perverts lol,.... I'm so confused. Posted on 06/14/12, 05:39 pm |
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umm,can't answer them all still.I wanted u to know you are not alone in this though...maybe google some free literature on deadly atractions,and or toxic relationships,,,hth 
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Sounds like you are attracting the wrong type of men, and not even knowing it! You have to know who you are as a person, and have boundries with people. Since you have been abused in the past, you are most likely, going to be abused again.. When we like ourselves, we tend not to allow anyone hurt us, or abuse us in any way. I am not inplying this is any of your fault, we did not choose to be abused. However, seeing an therapist would really help you. There is so much more going on with you than you think. Sorting it all out will help you,when you are confident in yourself,you start to attract a better type of person. Male and female.Find out about abuse, and domestic violence, there are lots of help on the internet now...If you would like to talk, please do, I have been where you are now....But, no more!
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Guys are gross but not all of them are *perverts*... If they're your friend and you're attractive, they probably want to have sex with you. The awkward, ugly ones are just as gross as the pretty, outgoing ones, but they play a different game. They're the ones that complain about getting stuck in the friend zone. Yea, guys mostly care about sex. Don't let it bother you too much because you'll never be able to change it. Just accept it and set boundaries. If they keep testing the boundaries, flush them down the toilet....
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* Actually, even if you're not attractive they still probably want to have sex with you. They'll take whatever they can get... Sex is man's achilles heel and the most pathetic thing about them. You just have to decide whether their good qualities are worth overlooking... that.... : )
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Guys care as much about sex as girls do, but that doesn't mean they want to jump you. Don't let others manipulate you into thinking an entire sex is perverted, lusty, and gross.
Give your friends a real chance. Both boy and girl.
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guys def have more of a sex impulse than girls. that doesn't mean we always act on it. Just be careful if a guy does't have a girlfriends wife or an outlet for his sexual energy. Its just nature, not a bad thing.
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I resent being called a super pervert. Maybe a regular pervert but definitely not a super one. LOL
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sorry that you had bad relatship in the past. those guy some like brunch of pigs. not all guy will hurt you. there are still good guy out there. maybe you need to take more time to get to know the guy better before you date the guy. be careful who you give your heart to. i hope you find a nice guy soon
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In my experience: I always had trouble establishing relationships with women but as I age I realize that as a woman having another female to share things with will always be your best bet. Men are great but they want to fix your problems and cant deal with repeatedly hearing about them, they are not good go to ppl to vent to. All men if not in a relationship with you will try to sleep with you one way or another, they are MEN... it's part of their makeup. So if you have to have a guy friend you need a gay guy. Once the sexual issue isnt an issue you can have just a good friend. Maybe your wanting the attention that you get from men, I too craved that when I was younger. Good luck to you and dont give up on finding a female friend I swear there is one for every personality out there.
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wow! I think you'd be surprised how many "nice guys" there are out here. And I think youd be surprised how many of us are a nervous wreck to opening up and sharing with female friends. We arent all dogs and on the hunt for the next sexual adventure. Guys have an unfortunate socially imposed feeling of having to be tough, not cry, do manly things, etc...it starts when we are young. At the same time, it doesnt justify any negative treatment to a woman. Its just tough to open up without feeling vulnerable or potential future target. I hope you find someone you can share with..man or woman...and especially hope you can find comfort and trust in a plutonic and/or romantic relationship...everyone deserves that.
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