Parenting 'Tweens (9-12) Support Group

My 11 year old has the same bedtime & wake time. Some days he is more excited to get out of bed than others.

I think his mood depends on what he has going on that day - if he is excited about anything they are doing in school or not. Does your daughter get excited about anything in school?

my 11 year old goes to bed at 930 and gets up at 730. some days she needs more sleep, others she is fine. a lot depends on the child and what they are doing before going to bed. if your child is up playing computer or video games before bed they are going to need extra time to wind down. my daughter curls up in bed with me to watch tv (house hunters on hgtv or unwrapped on food network, nothing action wise). just the other night she went to bed at 10 due to family issues and was fine in the morning. a little subdued in school but that has more to do with the family issues than the bedtime

We just started allowing S who is 11 to stay up until 9:00. Her bedtime before was 8:30. She is not a morning person no matter what time she goes to bed but after she has been up for about 45 minutes to an hour her attitude gets better. If she is extremely grumpy or shows signs of being tired later in the day she goes to bed earlier. I try to overlook the first hour of the day because lot of us just aren't morning people. If she starts having trouble in school her bedtime will go back to 8:30. Maybe you should tell your daughter that she has 2 weeks to improve her school performance or she will have to start going to bed a half hour earlier. This will give her something to work for and she won't feel like your being completely unfair. Just a thought but it might help.

My 11 year old goes to bed at 10pm which I know it is too late. He gets up at 645 am a little grumpy. So we're working on it too.

My 10 year old still goes to bed between 8 and 830 and is up at 630AM. the reason is it usually takes her atleast a half hour to relax where she falls asleep. 8 on the nights she has had soccer practice and 830 on non practice nights. I tried to let her stay up till 9, but I noticed that it would be 930 or 10 befor she would fall asleep. there are some days that she goes to bed befor even being told its time. Some kids just have so much going on in their heads that they need that extra time to relax.

My 11 yr old daughter is suppose to go to bed at 9:00 pm no later then 9:30 pm. After I got to bed she sinks out and uses the computer or the laptop in her room until I hide it from her. One night she was up until 12:00 am because her dad was chatting with her and trying to order a hat for her online. He didn't care at all if she was up late and had school next day. Even is she goes to bed early for school she doesn't like getting up. Its more harder when its a Monday. My son was up and gone at 7:30 am after my mom took him, I had to take my daughter because she was still getting ready.

My almost 12yr old goes to bed and wakes at the same time, and also needs more sleep. My son actually lays in bed most nights from about 8:30-9:30 reading and I think if I was a little better with our schedule he would go to sleep if I came in and turned off the lights at 9:00.... I still make a point to give him a hug, tuck him in and tell him goodnigt every night (even though he acts like he is too big, I know he appreciates it!)
I think the easiest thing for you to do is make sure she is away from TV prior to bedtime. We start bathtime around 8pm and then my youngest snuggles in my bed to do his nightly reading and then the boys brush teeth. I allow my older son a little extra reading time, but if I went into his room at 9 he would proabably be fine with lights out.

My 12 yr old goes to bed at 8:30pm and gets up at 7am. Shes not a mornin perosn so even the extra sleep doesnt help her get up. But thats the rule.

When she gets a lil older then I will think about lettin her stay up l8r.