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My boyfriend and I got together September 1, 2008. Things moved very fast between us and by the end of November 2008 I was living with him & his 2 girls who are now 11&12. All in all they've both excepted me as their real mother lives in another province so they don't really a mother figure in their lives. At first things seemed to be going great but as time went on & we moved to another house my relationship with the girls have diminished. They were raised by their father who pretty much gives in when it comes to everything. If he grounds them he never sticks to it and if he says no about something they go ahead and do it anyway. He has stated that he feels bad about them growing up without a mother but on the same note my mother left when I was 14 and I still had respect for others but they do not. When it comes to discipline there basically isn't any. These kids run the house and most times I feel as if I'm just there to make sure they don't kill each other (they hate each other with a passion) I really don't know what to make of the situation. I don't know if I'm over reacting or this is normal with blended families. The youngest often says rude and hurtful things to me such as: "I've made daddy's otehr girlfriends leave, your turn is coming" and then the next thing I know she's hugging me and telling me how much she loves me. Is this child confused? Maybe but it's coming to the point where I am ready to leave even though I am madly in love with their father.
If anyone has any advice or input please let me know as I am struggling with this everyday and I just need help. As of now I have chosen to spend the long weekend away from home at a family members house just so I can have some time away and clear my head. I am seeking counselling and have my first appointment on the 4th but I really don't know how much more I can take. Thanks for listening!!! ~Madison Posted on 05/15/09, 07:53 pm |
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you need to sit down with the dad and say to him that if he wants this to be a family then there have to be rules and respect and you both need to be on the same page. it is sad tha tthere mom is not in their life but allowing them to use that has a excuse fr bad behavior is wrong and will in the long run hurt them. tell him how you feel and that you want a realtionship but this is not goingto work. look into familycounsling, if he just will not do it, then knowthat nothing will cahnge so then you have to ask yourself if you are willing to live like that, it is sad that he allows his children to act like this, good luck, 
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