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lack of confidence at five and a half years
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i would really appreciate some help and advice. i have a five and a half year old son who is healthy loving and intellegent. However he has the hardest time making friends and when i have spoken to him about asking people to play with him he says "What if they say no ?". he has got some friends but if they are off school and he is on his own he tends not to bother playing with other kids and just plays alone.
He is an only child, and has no problems with playing alone its just that it breaks my heart to think of him in school with no freinds to play with!!!! Posted on 10/22/09, 05:10 am |
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Hi! Perhaps he is just very shy. My daughter was our first and it was difficult at first to get her involved playing with other kids, partly b/c we weren't really into the playdate thing.
I would say it might benefit you to get him involved in some afterschool activities to help him create bonds with kids his age. We got our daughter into gymnastics and karate as well as swimming later on. From there, she met lots of kids just from the teacher interaction with them and felt more comfortable around them. Also, lots of parents that are at the playground are understanding and you can easily go up and tell them your son has difficulties making friends. They may ask their kid to ask your son to play, taking away some of the angst involved with him worrying if they say no. Just some thoughts. Hope they help! Kuup 
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Hi Rachel.
I was very similar as a child. I had lost my dad when i was 2, and had only my mother and younger brother. Mum became extremely smothering. I had HUGE problems as a kid, and spend most of my schooldays alone. The response he gave "what if they say no?" speaks volumes about whats on his mind. I would suggest that he may have esteem and self image issues. Its important that you provide rich positive reinforcement, without overdoing it. You can never give enough praise and encouragement. There is a great article on EzineArticles that talks a little about this. http://ezinearticles.com/?A-Guide-... Good luck, I know that you are a devoted mother. Things will work themselves out over time.
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