Parenting Preschoolers (3-5) Support Group

have you tried making a chart and having rewards and consequences for her behavior,, we have started getting tougher on the house rules because the kids were getting out of hand, we had moved and had some changes happen and so we kinda got off the rule thing,, just being consistent and not allowing her to get by with it,, even one time,, we use time out, I give them 2 warnings and then they go to time out, sometimes you are putting them there a 100x a day and others not so much I try to keep my kids out in front of the tv and playing outside so they will burn more energy,l, sometimes though on those hot days and cold ones it is hard, my kids are big outisde kids and being inside really effects their behaviors,, hang in there, and just be firm hopefully she will outgrow it and fuigure it out,,

sounds like she is a natural gymnast. LOL Have you tried adjusting her diet? I notice mine does better when he has protein in the morning. Sorry I don't have a magic answer. Maybe you can let her run in the yard or something when you notice she is so out of control. Is she in school or daycare? Does she act the same for them?

Have u thought of signing her up for a dance or gym class? That could give her the outlet she needs to do the things she likes and teach her there is an appropriate place and time for them. The rough play with her younger brother is my concern. Try to enforce a rule where picking him up is always and entirely off limits. Maybe sit down with her and come up with some things, that you know she would enjoy, that she can do with her brother and that are safe for both (read him a book, build block towers...)

Oh I can laugh because that's us. I tried everything and with a kid like that, they don't care they just want to do what they want to do.

The only advice I can give is little but it helps. You're not the only one going through this. Out there, there are other mothers pulling out their hair. Also, after two yrs of dealing with our oldest and her extreme behavior, with nothing working mind you. I decided to hug it out. I hold her and talk to her about how great she is, once she's calmed down I approach the subject of her behavior. 9 times out of 10 she'll stop or calm down a bit. It takes everything in me to not follow my instincts and beat the living snot out of her behind for her disrespect.

Hang in there, hope something someone has said here helps.

sounds just like my son, hell be 5 in november. i noticed he calmed down once he started pre-k, so maybe just having the chance to be with kids the same age will give her an outlet. the other thing that has made a HUGE difference is that we recently put him in a karate class. all the kids (boys and girls) in his class, see the sensei (teacher) as a kind of superhero in their eyes. they have such resepect for him they dont want to dissapoint him at all. as part of the class the parents have to fill out a weekly report so the sensei can see that the kids have been acting the way they should, and if they arent they get disciplined in class and can even lose their belt. at first i thought it was kinda harsh to do that to a kid, but it really works. when my son acts up all i have to do is mention his report and that sensei wont be happy and he shapes right up. i dont know what it is with kids these days, but it seems they always behave better and have more respect for people other than their parents. hope this helps!

sounds a lot like my 3 year old son. I'm learning some things about sensory integration problems; specifically sensory seeking children. They're often misdiagnosed as ADHD. The Out of Sync Child is a book that was recommended to me.

Sugar is a huge issue with some kids. It is with my daughter. I dont give her fruit or juice by itself, I give it to her with a protien like cheese. I also mix the juice 50/50 with water and keep the amount down to less then 8 ounces a day. I try to avoid other sweets unless she is outdoors doing something physically active.

Also like the rest of these guys are saying, a regular daily outlet for physical expression would probably help keep her a bit calmer. Most days, when the weather permits I take Mariel to the park and run her around for at least 1/2 hour, if the weather is bad I try to take her to indoor stuff where she can be active, like Mcdonalds playplace or our local kids museum. I know it's hard and I wish you the best of luck!

I think its part of the age group. My daughter is turinging 5 next month and I would have swore I wrote the initial post. One thing my daughter is doing is trying to not answer my direct questions, tell me it was an accident, tell me she didnt know, or flat out lie to me. Im having to tell her that if she answers me witht he truth then she wont get in trouble no matter what. (of cource I only offer this as an option when I know the truth and would rather her learn to trust me and talk to me rather then needing to punish for a bad thing).

My daughter thinks our new kitten is her doll to do with as she feels free. I dont know how many times I tell her to leave the cat olone or to put him down only to have her sas me or ignor me. ANd by 5 pm she runs rampant. and no I dont think walking is a skill she knows any more... its run flip jump skip.... but no walk....

The one thing I am going to look into is the Wii maybe for christmas. They have soooo many active games and that kind of things is a big thing in our house. We do a lot of technology perferably learning based, sowhy not try for some activitie based ones.... We dont have the option for a yard and its very hot in the summer. And mom can only stand sitting in mc donalds for so long to let her burn energy on the toys (we go and sometimes only get an iced tea just to play lol).

I would definantly try to find her some kind of activity to burn off some of the energy