What is Ages 12-18 Teenagers
Adolescence is the period of psychological and social transition between childhood and adulthood (gender-specific, manhood, or womanhood). Someone in Adolescence is called a Teenag...
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How do you talk to teenagers these days. I work in a group home for girls and I am falling for all the tricks and I feel so stupid and naive. I am lost and it has been 10 years since I had a teenage daughter and if she talked the way the girls talked I would take away her phone which is her prize possession as with these girls. I need tips on how to say NO without feeling bad. I am not one to feel inferior but I am and it is getting to me. I am used to working with the developmental disability population and so I am new to this age of teenagers. I am so worried about being liked by the girls so I give in. My boss gave me a chance and she has given me chances and I really want to feel like her giving the chances is worth it and that I can grow with the company because it is exactly where I want to be. I need the strength to be able to tell the girls the right or wrong thing without giving in. All the other staff yell at them and that is not me in fact it bugs me. I also have a stutter problem and when i get upset it shows so I am trying not to let it show
Help me communicate Posted on 11/10/09, 05:11 am |
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Ah, teenagers...they can be like political dissidents. In a perfect world, you could treat them like they are in a Chinese prison camp...kill one, teach a hundred.
But, these are smart-aleks that a growing up to drive. Now, isn't THAT comforting. You are doing a difficult job because...your hands are tied anyway...because they aren't your kids and...your job depends upon it. But, I have found that teenagers are just like anyone else...in that...they want to be respected like anybody else. You know they stand eye to eye with you...and yet...they are still children. It feels dangerous, doesn't it Loe? That's because they are in danger...of a lot of things, including themselves. Go armed with that knowledge and couple it with your love and compassion and do not feel intimidated by their new found strength...as they can't balance a checkbook. 
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Read the book "Get Out of My Life, But First Can You Take Me and Cheryl to the Mall?". Lots of good insight into the mind and behavoir of teens and how to interact with them and react to them. Very helpful.
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hi, i lived in a group home. i liked the workers there who were just good people. who paid attention to us and took us on outings.
be yourself and when they say something rude or talk in a poor way, tell them that in order to function in the regular world, they have to use proper, respectful language. soon, you'll know all of the tricks and wont be able to fall for them anymore. plus,. now hyou can tell them no to something because you can tell them how you fell for it once before and now they have to build their trust up in your eyes. offer them time if possible. like a board game or getthem some teenager magazines. you have to get used to your new surrounding. don't be so hard on yourself. if you care about them it will show in time. you;ll get new girls and some will leave. in my home there were about 10 girls and 10 boys. we had to share a room. i really liked our workers, they were moms and would share stories about their own children and even bring them to the home sometimes. good luck.
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