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Well let me tell you a little about my story so you can understand what is going on. I was married to an abusive man for way to many years. When I finally got away my kids were taken by his mother from me. % years later after fighting till it hurt I have split custody with this woman while he sits in fed prison for drugs. I have been accused of so many things by this woman and she has gone as far as to have my kids accuse me as well. I have relossed and regained my custody twice. I now have it back and am in a new fight. I have have the welfare at my home for lies and am to a point scared to have my own kids in my home. But I continue to fight for them no matter what. And now as me and my daughter were wrestling as we always do I found her arm not just 1 or 2 marks but the whole right arm marked up from the cuts she makes. I sat her down and we talked about it and her reason is because she is mad at herself ooh and sometimes she wants to see how much it will bleed this is her first year in high school and I know this isn't healthy. The bad part is the woman (her grandmother) doesn't even know about it. Here is where my fear comes in Because of being accused of so much I fear I will be accused for this as well. what should I do and who should I speak with. PLEASE HELP ME.
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I am so sorry about your situaions. I understand it must be very difficult. This is something she is doing to herself and I don't think it is all that uncommon.. so I don't think you would be accused of doing it to her.
It's nice that your daughter talks to you about her reasons.. but I think she has to get some professional help. 
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Your situation sounds very complicated and I'm so sorry that you've had to fight so hard. Although they are your children and I'm sure the fight is worth it to you. The law is difficult when it comes to custody issues and more often than not, the judgements hurt everyone involved more than they help which is very unfortunate. My advice for all the accusations: stand your ground, you are the Mom and as long as the accusations are false you should find all the confidence in the world in knowing it will all work out. Where your daughter is concerned, ugh, unfortunately cutting is a common occurence for todays teens. It's great that she has confided in you...be the one to say it first, tell someone about it. Try to not be confrontational to anyone, but maybe telling the Grandma that has joint custody would help or it you just can't trust her, tell child services. They obviously have been involved in the past which means they probably are still involved. You be the one to say something, then it will be much more difficult for them to blame or accuse you. Your daughter needs counseling, I hope I've given some good advice.
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Thank you both for all the concern, as for my final decision I contacted a place in my area called foxrun they help kids. Since I am unable to talk with the grandmother they contacted the school for me and her as well. Now I hope she knows how serious this has become with my daughter. And will help me in getting her the help she needs. I pray this is just an isolated situation, but the way things look I don't think it is.
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i've been reading about a syndrome called PAS. i'm not sure if you're already familiar with it. it's called Parent Alienation Syndorme. Their grandmother has done some damage to the children it seems.
my kids high school had something on their website about cutting. it' is prevelant now. can you call the guidance counselor at school? just ignore the grandmother at this point. when teens cut thmeselvesi heard that it releases endorphins or some brain chemical that gives the m a rush. they get addicted to that. that she even talks to you shows that she trusts you. so i would take it a step further and become more informed and then maybe share what you have learned to her. she's stressin out over something. is she in counseling. can't be easy, knowing your father is in jail, and being at the hands of a vindictive old woman. good luck.
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common, no,you have made bad choices all alone, please put the childern first, you have to care about them first, conselsers will help, please get some for all of you
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