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My 17 year old son has real problems with his dad and I, and I dont know what to do. He is at a college prep boarding high school and our communications with him are becoming very limited. He rarely answers his cell phone or returns our call. His grades are dropping due to not doing his homework. He had suffered with depression in the past and I believe he is going through it again. He recently went off his antidepressant medication (without consent from his doctor or us) and is refusing to go back on it. I have him in therapy with his psychiatrist once a week who is trying to talk him into taking his meds again.
I have tried so hard to be a good parent to him and it really hurts to have him distance himself from me like that. I don't know what he says during his sessions with his psychiatrist but he had told me that my son is trying to declare his independence but ís not doing it in a healthy way, that he has real issues with us (his parents). I don't know what those issues are other than I irritate him. I am concerned for his future! Posted on 10/31/09, 07:10 am |
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I don't mean to laugh, but when I read the topic - before I opened it, I said I bet her son is 17.
I have a 17 year old too. I irritate him every day (unless he wants something) otherwise I think just my breathing upsets him. I'm sure you are good parents. Look how much you care about him. You're worried he's not taking his meds, you're having him go to the therapist. He's 17 - everyone tells me you will know them again when they are 25. Enjoy the ride. - I'm trying to. Hugs 
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Thanks MsViv, for your comment. It did brighten me a bit. I've been told about that 25 age thing too. All my friends and his teachers tell me what a great mom I am, but I don't feel that way. I keep thinking of what I could have done differently to have saved him from his struggles with depression.
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Hon Its the age. My son is 20 now. But at 17 He was to tired of me.
I irritated him if I just said How was your day,lol He is still like that. He is only nice when he is hungry or needs clothes. Well I get an occasional smile and hey Mom. Hey, he did at least buy me a Mothers Day card. His sister made him feel so guilty he had too. lol I'm sure your a good Mom. It will be ok. He is just trying to be an adult. He has to make his own mistakes and that's the hardest part. Letting him.
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Wow, I never realized how many of us are out there! thanks for all the posts and stories. My son is 15 and is on meds for Sever Depression w/ Psychotic features. He says he talks to people in his head and they can hear him. Last night was either a break through or just a break. He's been failing almost all his classes because he sleeps in class and just doesn't apply himself. I finally set down a new rule/routine for him when he gets home from school. He gets 15 minutes of free time when he gets home, then it's 2 hours of study time. I told him that this can stop when all his grades are above 75%. He blew up! Yelling at me, calling me names, telling me how I'm ruining his life. Then he started spitting at me, kicking me, and hitting me. Today I'm bruised both physically and emotionally. We ended the night with apologies, he went first, but I'm so upset and I don't know what to do.
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@Momma,
the teenage tantrums.. just like a 2 year old, but they hurt much more. mentally and physically. Have you tried going to counseling with him. Sometimes a go-between helps
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My son and I went to couseling together; It really helped.
A friend once told me that boys (sorry boys) loose their brains around the age of 12 and don't get them back until their 21. I am starting to believe she was right.
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My definition of teenagers - they are possessed by aliens at the age of 12, at the age of 25 the aliens then leave there bodies and they return to normal, if your lucky.
Mommaofa1 - the physical issues you described would scare me, my son is 16 and while I try real hard to make him believe I could take him physically I really don't think I could. I hope you are o.k. and please be careful. They don't realize they are not 8 anymore and are a lot stronger - just ask my walls that have dents in them from my son and his buddies "just playing around".
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he will be coming home soon for holidays, my therapist toldme to be available, just around if they want to talk. also, the best time to talk is while they're doing something, can't think of an example, sorry.
it's so hard when they act like they don't need you. but, good news is, my therapist says is tht they need you now more than ever. i do think it's his going off his medicine. can you get him to go for a mental health check-up. maybe his dad can make him go. i explained to my 14 year old son to be aware of any feelings of depression, and i told him what they are and that he is more susceptible to this because i am and my mother had schitzophrenia. maybe if you approach the topic with your son like that. it's hard, i'm sorry that your going through this.
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Thanks for your comment.. I have to try to remember that he still needs me even though he is acting like he doesn't.
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