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I have a 13 year old daughter that is wonderful when everything is going her way, and a total brat when they arent. She complains that she never gets anything and that everything that she has is junk. She picked out her school clothes and backpack, but now that she is in school and is seeing what other kids have, she wants what they have. My husband and I had very dysfunctional childhoods so we cant even begin to understand how she can be so outwardly ungrateful. People that had more typical childhoods have told me that selfcenteredness is the essence of children and that its typical... When is typical not typical anymore??
Posted on 09/17/09, 11:09 am |
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My daughter who just turned 14 acts like a spoiled brat even though she is not. We are not able to give her designer clothes etc... but you would think she gets everything she wants.
I can so relate to the fact everything is fine in there little world until you say "no". Then all heck breaks loose. Then we are the meanest parents ever. I don't get the difference either as far as when we were teens. We just didn't talk back to adults period, much less our parents and my mom wasn't hateful or mean but we just knew better. I really don't treat my kids different then my mom treated us. When they get into trouble they get grounded so did we. The only thing I didn't do with mine is use the dreaded switch. When we were little mom would use a switch on our legs - if we did that now the powers that be would put us under the jail. I also remember being afraid to get into trouble at school and getting paddled there. For some reason the "fear factor" for most kids just isn't there. They aren' afraid to get into trouble. 
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I think having her volunteer somewhere where she will see people and possibly families who have nothing is an excellent idea they don't know anything else but if we show them thats when they start to appreciate what they have. Don't feed into this behavior it will only get worse
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I am currently going thru the same thing with my 16 yr old son. Divorced from his father and not in picture for last 9 yrs. Just recently made re appearance. My son tells me he wants to live with his father. Throws it up at me all the time. I spoke with his father and he doesnt want him. He yells and screams at me all the time. Sneaks, lies steal. Threatend to kill me with a hammer. DSS is currently involved. We have social worker meet with us once a week. I think we are going to have a meeting and let him know that he cant play us against each other. Thats what social worker suggested. My son is learning to play the game. I think I may take the advice of cleanin out his room and leaving the necessary items. He broke his cell phone last night in one of his fits. Im NOT buying another one. Oh well. Says he hates me and his litle sister. He wants out of this f...ed up family.
I could use any advice or suggestions anyone has. I am at my wits end.
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