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Ok so I'm REALLY new at this raising a teen thing....today and yesterday I introduced my niece to a girl down the road. I figured she needs to make some friends, and good trustworthy ones. They seem to get along fine but the problem is....my niece and I DON'T get along with other teens around. She starts showing off and acting like she can do whatever she wants. And if I disagree with her she gives me this HUGE attitude! Example: tonight her and her new friend come and ask me if I can take them to the school dance. Mind you, it's now 8:50pm and the dance is from 9pm-11pm...oh and besides that, she needs $20.00 for her and $20.00 for her friend to go. So I tell her it's too short notice especially where I have 4 of my own kids. I promise her that next time if I know a little more ahead of time she can go. Well, that starts a big fit by her blaming me saying I don't want her to have friends....that isn't the case at all and she knows it! How do I deal with this attitude and her rudeness when friends are around? I can't stand it! She's a different girl all around when friends are near........she got me to the point I wanted to make her stay in her room!!! I couldn't even look at her I was sooo annoyed...PLEASE HELP!!!
Posted on 09/12/09, 12:09 am |
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sounds to me like she is testing you to see what she can get away with. and there is the chance that her friend was in on it. kids need to find out what they can get away with with not only their own parents but their friends parents.
dont let her walk on you and next time send her to her room. her and her friend will get the message 
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I have a 16yr old son that try's the same type of things.
They are trying us to see just what they can get away with. My son is now understanding no means no. If ever you want to talk just let me know friend. You are in my thought friend. My heart goes out to you. Keep up the good work friend.
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That can be very annoying. My daughter does that all the time. I think they believe that if they have a friend with them, then we will give in to the pressure of two people. Try to ignore the obnoxious behavior and just say no, period. They get even more obnoxious at the beginning, but eventually they learn that no is no.
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i think kids pick their times they seem to think if they ask you for some thing you wouldnt normally allow in front of their friends you will say ok so as not to cause a scene,
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what you say goes. Sometimes you have to tell them off in the front of their friends to let them know you are not going to tolerate rude behavior and then ground them. Sending her up to her room wouldn't have hurt and you should have let the friend know also the your rules apply to your household and if she didn't like it that she could go home.
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its sort of a sub-concious test, she is actualy really annoyed about it, its not like she went out and formulated a plan to test you. but the fact remains that she is sort of testing you. personaly from a teenagers view i would have said pay for her to go, but make sure she pays you back. my mum used to keep a 'money book' where any larger ish amounts of money i had to borrow were recorded and so she could prove it was/was not payed back. as for the friend. DO NOT PAY that is ridiculous and just trying to get away with anything. establish rules. not many or she will feel like you are trying to hold her back but maybe just in at 10 on a school night and 11 on a weekend. any money borrowed WILL be payed back etc
also a word of warning if you do decide to employ the 'money book' stratagey to lend her money you must set a time limit for it to be repayed that applys consantly. add a date to the book of the day she borrowed it, and be vigilant, write it down straight away. if you decide to do this, any extra borrowed money that is not recorded was never borrowed. do it properly and it works a charm
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