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OK so my niece (being 15) has a nice boyfriend that just turned 17. This weekend he is staying at our house. I laid some rules down like, he sleeps on the couch and her in her bed. They were watching movies all cuddled up on the couch, covered up but I feel a little uneasy about it. I was 15 once. I know what can happen. So I had my husband (her biological uncle) go make sure nothing was to happen. Sexual wise I mean. I asked him to be nice, as it can be embarrassing, and he got a little annoyed. Saying I'm overreacting. I don't feel I am. I don't want a pregnant 15 yr old on my hands. How should I be handling this sleepover? Does anyone have any specific rules I should know about? I'm trying so hard to make her comfy here since she lost her mom and was rejected by her step-dad's family. All she has left is us. I don't want her to hate us but I don't wanna give her to much room to roam and get into trouble either. So I need to know what should I do and not do I guess. What should I allow? This is so hard but I know I have to stick to the rules once I figure out what they are. I really have no clue how to raise a teen yet. I'm only 27 and scared of screwing up....any suggestions....PLEASE?!
Posted on 08/29/09, 02:08 am |
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I'm sorry but if they are cuddled up under a blanket, what's the blanket hiding? I know what a blanket hid when I was dating. They can cuddle on the couch or floor but not with anything covering them up. Having them sleep in separate rooms is good but what is keeping them from wandering at night? Sorry but I see no reason to have him spend the night....seems to be asking for trouble in my opinion. 
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My daughter is 16 and her dad died last year. Her boyfriend is 20 and yes they are sexually active. She did get pregnant but recently lost it due to stress.I had /have the same concerns that you have. They came to me together and she asked for birth control before they knew she was pregnant,they were very respectful about it. I like to think it's because my husband & I always tryed to encourage the kids to talk to us about everything and that they are trying to responsible. If they didn't know how to start a conversation and we knew what it was about we started with some "ice breakers". Don't get upset or discouraged or at least don't let them see it right off the bat. Respect them as you would want to be respected. Talk with them even if it's unconfortable most likely she will listen even if it don't seem like it to you. I don't see anything wrong with him staying over all night as long as they follow your rules. D***** stayed over at our house many nights and slept on the couch every time.But of course my son slept in the LR too just to make sure D***** stayed on the couch..... Good Luck
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