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Advice on what to do next...teenage drinking
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My eldest of 5 children has been a real problem to me for the past 3 years since he turned 13 hes been drinking heavily. Hes now 16 and drinking on a daily basis I have have had so many problems over the years with him running away and police out looking for him thats happened hundreds of times ave grounded him numerous times he jumps out of the bedroom window, he has stolen stuff to sell from our home for drink the list is endless at home hes quiet an not that much trouble but as soon as he steps out of the house all hell breaks loose. I ve had people at my door kicking off because he has taken items of their kids to sell for drink he goes to my family trying to get money for drink and now hes started to go out and not bother comming home all night because he knows now hes 16 the police wont look for him as they once did, my family are no support my mother in law only sees him when hes sober she knows where going through hell with him but tries to see the good in him we have begged her to take him to give us a break but she takes him for 1 night and sends him home again! I ve asked him to go to the docs and get some help but he hasnt, its so annoying because we have done our best to bring him up well hes had a good life had a lot of love around him and has wanted for nothing had the best of everything and the best schools and stuff....looking for some advice as to where we go from here as we re at our wits end!!!!!!! (live in the u.k)
Posted on 08/26/09, 09:08 am |
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I really wish I had advice to offer but I am in the same boat with you and wanted to let you know you are not alone. From the sounds of things we could be raising the same boy.
I hate when people say ground him or take things from him. How am I supposed to ground him when he will be up an out of the house as soon as my back is turned or I go to the bathroom and that boy doesnt have anything else left to take away, its all long gone. Just know you are not alone 
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In the U.S. he would still be considered a runaway teen, and the police would respond to a runaway child report no matter how many times you called. Also, there should be someone in his school who can recommend alcohol addiction treatment/counseling. Sorry, I do not know what your options are in the U.K., but here the behaviors you describe are unacceptable, and require intervention. His preoccupation with alcohol indicates alcoholism, and his addictive behavior has to be addressed. Good luck to you and your family.
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In your case I would seriously consider professional help and getting in contact with support groups and organizations in your area. This is a fairly wide spread problem, so there are lots of groups that are out there to help you deal with this sort of problem. Keep trying and reach out to the groups and organizations that are available to you. Try to get to the root of the issue, as there are more that likely underlying problems which are the cause of his drinking. Let him know he can trust you and tell you anything and that you are trying to help him for his own well being. It is impossible to help someone who won't help themselves so try your best to keep positive and encourage him to want to help himself. Keep in touch with members of the community that can help you and, again, reach out to those groups and organizations at your disposal, they can be an enormous help.
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