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I need some advise on my 18 year old daught
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Hello I am really at a lose right now my 18 year old daught as just moved out on her own, I thought it was going to be on good grounds that she moved but she doesn't want anything to do with the rest of the family. I feel very hurt she was raise in a very religious home and now I see her making friends with the wrong kinds of people. When I ask her about this she makes me feel that I am intruding in her life. I just don't know how to cope with this. What age do they wake up so to speak and start to have a relationship with their family again? please help me I am worried that this will drive a wedge between my husband and me or i will alienate my other daughter that is 16
Posted on 06/26/09, 01:06 am |
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I think that when young people grow up in a fairly strict household, there is a tendency for them to go a little wild when they reach the age of independence. In my opinion, which could be completely wrong, it is just a stretching of their wings, just to see how it feels, and most times they fly back in the end. Try not to worry too much, and not to force the issue. I'm sure she will be fine. Hugs, Jennie 
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this reminds me of the prodigal son. he left his family and had to go on his own. learned tough lessons and eventually went back home. pray for her everyday. once you have a church background you almost always come back to it. God bless and i will pray for her.
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I am probably SO not in a position to give advice or suggestions but here I am anyway. When I moved out from my dad's (he raised me) I was pretty determined to tell him as little as possible and to take no suggestions or advice. I know I hurt him a lot but that wasn't my intention. Actually I was very close to my father and felt very dependent; this was the only way I could figure out how to separate. He backed off (some) and acted like he trusted me (not sure if he really did or not) and I did make my way back to him. I think the harder he pushed the further away I would have gone.
I can only imagine how painful this must be. Please let us know how things go.
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Thanks for all of your advice. I will try to keep positive all the while praying for her everyday. I to know that the harder I push her the harder she will push back. Thanks again
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I agree with mrsclonney on this.
First time out on her own and being able to make the rules, she will a little wild. But with time it wears off, she will settle down.
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She has to make her own mistake and learn from them. Work on keeping yourself healthy and well, and she will see you as a beaming example. Don't obsess about what she's doing with her life, you have very little influence at this point.
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There comes a time that teens want to be totally independent. As soon as they find a place to escape to, they are gone in a heartbeat.
If they get in with "the wrong crowd" it can do so much harm. Eventually your teen might just come begging to get back in your lives. Please take it easy on yourselves, because you have raised your teen the best you can. God bless
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