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2yr old son not adjusting to my feonce.
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I dont know what to do! I've posted on this before but its gotten more serious and I need more advice.
I've been with this guy for a year now. We've lived together for 6 months and we've disscussed marriage one day. Dillon (feonce) is a wonderful man! He is so sweet and loves my son and me so much! Trea did start to like him some I think a few weeks ago. He had started to play with Dillon some. Then one day he just started to not like him again. I used to think he was worried that Dillon would get more of my attention than him but I've been going out of my way to prove that he gets my attention more. I'd do anything for Trea! No man would ever come ahead of my son! But should I loose such a wonderful man when I dont even know why my son doesnt like him? I think I'd be lonely forever. But its things like when Trea wants a drink open, if Dillon opens it for him, he wont want it. And Trea stay clinging to me. He wont even leave my side long enough to let me use the bathroom. He has to go with me. Eather that or he'll scream and beat on the door. And thats something else I dont know what to do about!? He just doesnt want to be around Dillon at all. They are never alone. I take Trea to daycare when I go to my classes and pick him up when they are over. I know Dillon isnt abusive to him. I'm always around. And Dillon isnt like that anyway. The latest thing I have desided to try is playing good cop/bad cop. Me being the bad cop and the only one to ever get on to Trea for bad behaviour. Then if I put Trea for a time out, I thought about letting Dillon say he could get up like a minute early. Maybe not the best idea but I'm out of ideas. Its been months with us all living together and my son isnt warming up to him at all really except for that little while. Its like he wont let himself like Dillon. Why might this be happening? And what should I do? Please help!!!!! Posted on 10/24/09, 08:10 pm |
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Hello I'm the new step dad. I just wanted to say I would NEVER hurt that boy! I love him! I help raise him everyday and feel as if he was myown. Its not easy being a (future) step dad, but I am happy to give it my all and more! I feel it will pay off in the end. When he's grown and knows I loved him so much. Its a bond we have formed beyond me just trying to get along with him for his mother. I really love him! Thanks for all the advice for our family! 
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Treastepdad-My sons had a real problem with my husband[stepdad]when I first married him.They were both teens and very jealous of him.There were alot of fights and arguements from both sides.My husband was in the military and wants everything just so.He rewarded good grades and punished bad[took stuff away,grounding things like that].My childrens biofather was never a part of their lives even when we were married everything concerning the children was left up to me and having an involved "father "was new to them.Anyway now that they are adults they adore my husband.They love Mom BUT "DAD" IS EVERYTHING.They have even asked him to do adult adoptions for them.So please have heart it won't always be this way.If you truely love Trea and his mother hang in there.Love is what will bring him round.Every night when it's bed time and Mom's taking him to bed say "goodnight Trea,I love you".Every morning when everyone starts to seperate for the day say "By,Trea,I love you"Never try to touch him,don't invade his space.You will know when the time is right for that.It takes alot of work but you can work your way into his life if you love them enough.It is also a great idea to make sure you tell his Mommy that you love her in front of him.Let him see you do things that makes his Mommy happy.Include him by name when you plan family things.Instead of saying "why don't we go to the zoo today"say "Lets you,me and Trea go to the zoo today".Children at this age understand better if you use names instead of pronowns.Ask his permission before you do anything that concerns him or his things:"Trea,do you want me to open your drink?".Try never to raise your voice around him,loud voices scare children.Never ever argue with his mom in front of him!!Offer your love and friendship but never push it,let him accept it on his terms.
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