What is Adoption
Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Adoption results in the severing of the parental responsibilities an...
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Hello All and thank you for sharing your stories, thoughts and personal feelings. I am new to this group, but have been a DS member for a few years. I first joined after the loss of a child to stillbirth in 01/08. Recently I lost a second child to stillbirth on 09/16/09. An unbearable amount of pain has lead me to a light... that light is adoption. I'm hoping to learn and explore the option of adoption for my family. My husband an I long to have a large family and after a second pregnancy loss without explanation we have been advised to not try again. We refuse to give up on our dream of a family. I'm hear to learn about adoption. I hope you'll be comfortable educating me. Love to you all.
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Welcome to adoption support. I am curious to know, are you and your husband looking to keeping in touch with the birthparents?
I am a bm, and have had different decisions that needed to be made at the time my children were born, things like which family to choose in becoming my children's parents; to what kind of relationship did I want with the family/ies? I have experienced both open and closed adoptions; I made one decision to keep my two oldest children in the same family. I also chose to put my third child in a partial open adoption setting, and my last child in a completely closed adoption and yet, with this birth, I allowed the adoptive mother in the delivery room with me. She was also allowed at the prenatal check-ups; all of my choice! There are different ways that you can do the adoption-meaning there are some people that open their homes to the birthmom; but that also would be a private adoption, most likely using lawyers for all parties involved, very costly. You and your husband can use an agency-I looked in the phonebook and called different places; meeting with the peple that run it (case workers). If you want more information or just to talk please contact me! I wish you and your husband well! L 
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We adopted my son out of the foster care system. Fate and God brought my husband and I to that decision. Not an easy path, but I love my son so much. I truly feel that we were meant to be his parents. Just another option for you to consider. Take care! Best of luck to you! You are welcome to ask me questions.
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I am an apdoptee and a first mom, so I have seen and been in the pain of adoption. Please learn as much as you can about adopotion and how it efects the child and also the firstmom, it is not an easy road to go down, to not have your child with you is heartbreaking and the pain never leaves. I have been reunited with my son now for about a year. I have gotten to know his aparents well, it has been a very long road for them as well. My son has so much anger about the adoption; he has always felt unwanted (his aparents are wonderful and have loved him always) he felt no conection with them and when we met he said his heart was full, he had been missing a part of himself for 18 years...
I grew up with the best aparents, I got to meet my birth parents about 9 years ago, and after meeting them I am so glad they placed me for adoption...there is no way of knowing how adoption will turn out, all I can say is go into it with an open heart and mind, and all the knowledge learned. Please read Primal wound, it's one of the best books out there on adoption.
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