Adoption Support Group

hi
i found my bm and bd. the relationship with them has really kind of fizzled out. they married each other 3 years after i was born. they said that they didnt want to lose me again, but they have not tried to make any effort to do what it is that they say. oh well. to me that sucks, but what am i to do?
however like you, i would like to have a bond with my 3 full blooded brothers. and that is really all i would like to get out of this. its going slow, but we do see each other maybe 2 a year and i hope that as time goes on it will be more frequent.
i wish you luck in your quest.

I met my bmom 9 years ago, I did have all the questions and I got answers. It was good to know her but it was ok if I did not talk with her for months. She didn't go out her way to talk with me, it was very one sided. Sad to say she passed away this summer.

I was reunited with my son at the first of the year. We both had a need to know each other. He is not close with his aparents and really needed to find himself, and he did in me. We are so much a like and have a conection that is amazing. We text daily and are so close. I never though it would be this good...

Keep your mind open, you never know whats ahead in our lives...

I think the only reason i would want to meet mine is to get a medical history, other than that I don't think I need to add any family that i don't already have.

my bdad is dead
my bm and i are having a relationship but it has been really rocky
I think it has been good for us though and i believe in all that maternal bond stuff

my 3 sisters do not talk to me or make any effort so i am very sad today but am giving up

my b bro has invited me to visit him on the other side of Aus
so there has been good and bad

well...I was adopted when I was 4, however in the custody of my adopted parents since I was 8 months old.

I met my bdad when I was 14, because he expressed an interest and also because I found out that he was having a son. We met, and nothing became of it...he kinda creeped me out. So we lost touch and then I found him again when I was 18. I made contact with him, went to him, called him....it was very one sided. Turns out...he wasn't the best the best person to be around. He was an alcoholic and on cocaine...something I'd never been exposed to in my lfe. There were other creepy things occuring that I shouldn't post, so needless to say...I took off as fast as I could to get away from him and there hasn't been any contact since I was 19 years old, so almost 6 years now I've not heard from him.

My bmom, I just met this past summer and it's been awkward. I found her, and established contact becuase I did have questions about my adoption. She gives me space, and talks to me, and you can tell at times she wants to be my only mother, but she doesn't want to intrude and so she backs off...it can get a little awkward.

I always wanted to meet my bparents, since I was little. But I wanted to because I stood out like a neon sign in my family growing up, and I was always curious as to where I came from.

So...best of luck with your decision!!!

While i do have an interest in meeting my b-mom and b-dad---it is interesting that you bring up siblings--because i like you---would luv to first find out if i have any siblings and if so i would want to meet them---maybe it stems from being an only child---my only hang up is i don't want to tell my parents becuase i love them dearly and i know it would hurt them and they are the ones with all the information--I know a little, but not enough.

I feel the same way...I just want to know "Why". But as I have gotten older, I have come to realize that asking questions will just lead to more questions and also, I am terrified of the possible answers I may here from my biological mom. I know that nothing she could say could answer my questions...so right now I have no interest in contacting her but later down the road when the time is right and I know that I am ready, then maybe I would find her.

I got in contact with my b-parents 2 years ago after many years of searching. I primarily looked for them because I wanted to know if I had any siblings (which it turns out I don't have any from either side) and also the 'why' question was always on my mind. My b-father isn't really very interested in keeping touch, he writes about twice a year, my b-mother decided to terminate our contact a few months back as I wanted to find the rest of my b-family and she didn't want me to and told me if i decided to look then she wanted nothing to do with me. I had no idea that I would still be a secret from both their families 37 years later and that has been really hard to deal with.

a lifelong friend mentioned his folks had told him several times I was one of twins, which was interesting to me. he was a few years older and there when my folks brought me home at 1yr.

went to the crossroads I was born at and spoke to an old teacher who gave me a phone and address list of his students in those times. anything like a twin birth would have been known to all, but I've no interest in meeting up with another me.

I met my bmom nine years ago and we have worked really hard to develop a relationship. Hard work, but worth it. My bdad and I are still working. I have 5 half sibs by him but only one really pays me any attention. It's just never been a big deal to me.