Adoption Support Group

My husband and I are in the process of adopting a child. I think there is a bad stigma when it comes to birth mothers who give up threir children for adoption. We had to attend many classes and I was able to sympathize with the birth mothers and fathers as well because it is not an easy decision to give up your child. I don't know what your circumstances are but I want you to know that i although not completly understand your situation. I know it is hard to care for a baby, but whatever you decide put the child in the equation. I know it is hard, but it is not always going to be, kids are a blessing. I also understand that you are thinking about giving the best to your baby and sometimes the best for them, and for you is to find someone else to take care of them. I don't know how religious you are, but praying helps. I also understand that you want to avoid the legal issue and also the fact that your baby is being treated like merchandise to be exchanged. I hope if you decide to give your child for adoption, that is for the right reasons, and I hope you find a good family for her, if you decide to do it. There are many families who are willing to let the bio mothers be part of the child's life, I know I would like that if is possible with the my future adoptive child. I think bio mothers and families can be of great help. anyway, goood luck to you and you baby and I hope your decision is the best for both of you.

Thanks for the advice mom,i really wish you could have this baby of mind,i know you can understand what i am going through and i wish you the best in your adoption process.Thanks

Let me know what you decide. I really wish it would be that easy. I would take your baby and care for her, and let you be part of her life. I don't know much about how the system works, but I really wish you two the best. I hope you can make the best decision for you and your baby. By the way, where do you live. If you don't want to share much publicly, email me at aquino68@hotmail.com. But please keep me posted. Good luck.
Wendy

It sounds very hard right now but keep your baby if you possibly can. Get all the support you can from everyone in your family if that is possible, friends,professionals ..
You are very brave. I wish you well whatever you decide. Mariex

While at any time giving up a child for adoption is hard, it probally gets harder the older the child gets and the more attached you and child become. if adoption is only in the research stages and not a definitive decision yet--i would look into programs where you live---i know in my area there are some programs that help single mothers who are in school--and there are other programs out there and community centers that offer help and support--i think you could benefit from them. (maybe goolgle search single mothers groups)

Adopting out a baby affects you for life so dont hurry into the descion

This is a big decision. Do not rush into it.
In Canada all adoptions are open ones. The birth parents along with the adoptive parents discuss a visitation plan that works for both parties. The child grows up knowing that they are loved by all of their parents. We are currently in the process of completing our homestudy and were very uncertain about what an open adoption was...but after meeting a lot of adoptees etc... this process is wonderful and really expands your family.
Check the adoption laws of your country. Most countries are very strict about the process for adopting...they want what is best for the child.

Times get hard raising a child, try to reach out for help. Conect with other single mom's and see if you all can support each other. Adoption also changes the life of the child. For me as a adoptee and first mom, I would do every thing to keep the child...