What is Adoption
Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Adoption results in the severing of the parental responsibilities an...
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im 24 and i found out i was adopted at age 21-22. the woman i believed was my aunt is my mother...i found out i have several(4-5) older siblings, i want to find them.....the person i grew up with as my brother let me down so badly and hurt me so much even though i adored him that i feel like i need to find these people in order to find parts of me that are missing. does that make sense?
i know their names and where they were born. i know one is dead and his twin was in a mental hospital. i think they went threw catholic charties and i know CC will NOT help me. Is there anything i can do?? can anyone help me? Posted on 08/16/09, 09:08 am |
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Jenne,
You say that you feel you need to find these people in order to find parts of you that are missing. I understand that view as I also felt that way. I am adopted as well as being the biological aunt of my adopted son. I think most adopted kids feel incomplete and think that finding their biological families will "complete" them. I have found this to be untrue, it may answer some questions but it can never undo what has been done in the past. You're adopted family is your family, they have sacrificed for you. They have taken care of you, provided for you and so on. Without sounding mean, I want to remind you that your bio family just brought you into the world, someone else parented you. As adopted kids we often live in a fantasy world of what our bio family is and what could be. I took a survey and most reunions are not successful. I am only telling you this so that you don't put to much emphasis on fulfillment through finding your bio family. You have been dealt a certain hand you choose to allow it to make you better or bitter. You can have an awful life and make choices that make it wonderful or you can have what appears to be a great life on the outside and make choices that make it a miserable life. Life is what you make it. I made choices that led to my feeling complete, it wasn't my family that made me whole. 
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something you can do on your own and go through the group sites such as myspace, facebook things like that...pt in there names and just start looking around...you never know there have been many family members found by doing just that
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I agree with Robin,
my biological father found me through myspace, which was totally not expected.
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All aside, I used this FREE site, and it took them less than 2 days to locate my B-Mom.
http://www.gsadoptionregistry.com/... Again FREE!!
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