Adoption Support Group

If it were my wedding, I wouldn't want a person like that there. Why should you care if he sees what he gave up? It's not your problem. He'll maybe figure it out better if you don't invite him.
I have a sister who is a drunk who ruins every family gathering by being loud and obnoxious, grabbing all the attention. It's embarrassing. I chose to not invite her to my wedding. People talked, but we had a good day, and I don't feel bad about that decision. What I feel bad about is that I don't have a good relationship with my sister. It's something I mourn. However, it's a choice I made, to keep her at a distance because she hurts me.
Don't invite him. You have other things to think about on your wedding day...like your husband and yourself!
Have a great day!! Enjoy every minute of it.

If it was my wedding, as hard as it might be, I would only want the people that truly love me for who I am, that have been there for me and so forth at my wedding.

I myself wonder if I were to get married would I invite my biological parents and siblings although they disrespected my whole family and so forth,

It is a difficult position, but only in your heart you will know.

I just attended my b-daughters wedding,it was beautiful.:) Her b-dad(sperm donor)left me when I was 6 months pregnant,signed off rights with no problem,she has always known this from the beginning,so needless to say he was never part of her life what-so-ever.

If I were in your shoes,I wouldnt want anyone at my wedding like that. Thats his loss,by the sounds of it he wouldnt care if he was there or not..I wouldnt risk him ruining YOUR speical day. Have the people that love and care for you there,thats all that would matter to me..:)

I am adopted also. ..I would just be happy with what you have right now and have a wonderful wedding with close friends and family (not him). It is supposed to be a happy time in your life so live it for today! I wouldn't get too anxious about him not responding...he is who he is. Let your adoptive father...by the way he is your DAD! walk you down the isle. Be happy don't get too caught up with the past. :) Live for today!!!!!!

I was lucky enough to find both my birth mother and birth father..never married...anyway

Hell no.........he obviously has issues and it seems that he needs to do his part in growing up and dealing with how he feels and to be honest. It will hurt him to not be invited but it is better than him being there and saying things that are inappropriate on your special day.....You might talk to him about it and discuss your concerns and be brutally honest...what do you have to lose..it doesn't seem like a healthy relationship right now anyway....good luck

I don't think you should do it for the reason that you want him to see what he gave up.This is not the right reason and also could backfire in a big way causing you upset on your wedding day.
If you feel that it is the right thing to invite him and can cope whether he comes or not then ask him.If you have no expectations from him then invite him.
If you feel you would spend your wedding wondering whether he loves you or not then dont invite him.It is all a matter of your expectations and what you can cope with.

Girl, I would say no way. Don't ruin YOUR day by having him there. My biological sons birth father isn't involved in his life and that is for the best. It is better for my son to not have that negative "sperm donor" in his ife. It sounds like it is better for you not to have this man in your life as well. At least not at your wedding. Your real father will be there and thats all that matters. Enjoy your day and be happy. No tension allowed.