Adoption Support Group

I am sorry you feel this way or that this is happening to you. We adopted my son. He was 4 when he came to live with us and it was 2 1/2 years before the adoption was final. I was very addamant with my family about treating my son the same way. I have to say, I have been blessed and everything worked out just fine.

Have you every spoken with your parents about this? There are times, for whatever reason, when I am not getting along with my sister or brother. We all have issues. Even families that don't have adopted kids have issues. Maybe this has nothing to do with you at all? I would discuss it with your parents. I am also pretty gutsy now (although I wasn't when I was a teenager.) If I were you, I would try to talk with your Aunt by herself over a soda or coffee or something and tell her how you feel.

You may just need to accept that she can't accept the situation. My husband's brother flat out told us: "I will never accept your son as my nephew." Now, he is an alcoholic and my husband and his brother don't get along. But I will never subject my son to that mess. My son is now 12, so we talk about stuff all of the time and we also go to counseling.

He has some issues with self esteem. It is so understandable with everything that he has gone through in his life. We take him to karate and he is a black belt! I try to find ways to help boost his confidence and tell him he is special. And like I said, we go to counseling. He gets picked on sometimes in school for being adopted. Kids can be so cruel. He just pours his heart out to people. But hopefully he will learn to not take this all personal and not let this stuff bother him so much. They are the ones with the problem, not him.

So I would talk with your parents or talk with your Aunt. No matter what, don't take it personal. Some people can be mean or just small minded. No two people are the same. That is what makes us all special! I am related by blood to my sister, 2 brothers and a half sister. The big joke in my family is that the mailman was my father. I look nothing like the rest of them. People would ask us twice: "Are you sure you guys are sisters?" I have blonde hair and blue eyes and light skin. My sister and brothers and half sister all take after my dad: Italin. Brown hair, brown eyes, olive skin.

Anyway, take care! I hope you have a nice weekend in spite of everything!.

OH YEA!

Now that I know. Plus now that my adoptive parents have passed away, yea!

That is normal. You can not MAKE anyone like you. I understand the desire to "be good enough" You are YOU! They will like you for you. You are special. Plus you have to live with yourself and look at your self in the mirror!

Loving someone should not be on the condition that they love you back. You would never stick your nose up I know. But be strong. If they have issues that is their loss for not knowing a wonderful person that has so much to give!

God Bless.

Paul

my reaction is that that is her problem.She may not even know she is passing out those vibes.I have come to a stage in my life that i woould just say to her this is how i feel,do you mean it to come accrosss that way if she says yes well hey everyone cant love us.True,it sucks but no family has everyone that likes them.I have an aunt who is a pian in the butt.(adopted side)now amum has passed away she has felt free to express that my relationship with my amum was unnatural.What a load of crap i think but she doesnt talk to me anymore which knowing her is rreally a blessing.I have lost a mum and a aunt and wish it was her instead.This is because she is a hypocondriac and for years we have beeen hearing how sick she is ,yet here she still is.Sorry to digress,enjoy your relationships with the ones you can and be at peace about the ones you cant.
Old saying......
God grant me the serentity to accept the things i cannot change
courage to change the things i can
and wisdom to know the diference

I feel that way a lot of the times when my family gets together. Even though both my brother and I are adopted I feel like our families look at the two of us differently. Ive learned to mask the pain by smiling and acting like being adopted doesnt bother me, even though i know it shouldnt. Keep your head held high =)

I have always been treated like an ousider at family events because everyone knows that I am adopted. Some of the family members treat me as if I belong, however there are other members who will openly express their opinions about me being there.
It is difficult being at a family function and feeling like an outsider. Maybe you can sit down with your parents before the get together and tell them the things that happen at family functions that make you feel the way you do.

Maybe at the party you can stay around your cousins and try not to let your aunt get to you? I wish I had better advice. I hope all goes well for you

the person i adored as my brother (my real cousin) made me feel like i was trash and not worth *hit all my life,even before i knew i was adopted, he was always throwing it in my face!

you cant make people care or like you. but you should say something to your aunt..i did when my "aunt" was bossing me around and treating me like she owned me....lmao come to find out she's my birth mom...but anyway you need to ask your aunt why she's like this there could be a reason that has nothing to do with you.

or you can just tell her to piss off and just ignore her when you come in contact with her.