Accidents Support Group

Why don't you write this boy a letter . It might mean the world to him.
it is not wrong that I'm NOT mad at driver .
it is right not to be mad
To blame is wrong
to forgive it right
to love is right
to feel compassion is right
to show concern is right
to be vengful is wrong

Thank You, I'v tried to find him, wonted to jst check on him an let him know please don't carry alot of guilt, he didn't mean to harm.

just continue to pray for him, God will take care of him......

Thank You. I just worry, that he's carring this around. I don't know if he has support, cause I feel that this has to be something that is heavy on him.

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oh yea they got word that I was worried about N. an now i'm the worst mother there is, well I was told that I wasn't even a mother, if I can't hate him then i couldn't have lovee Matt

That is just wrong to the extreme. Just because you don't hate this boy does NOT mean you don't love your son. It means that you feel compassion and you have retained logic- you understand this boy was not trying to hurt anyone. This boy was a friend of your son. An inablility to hate does not mean an incapacity to love. Your feelings are not wrong or shameful.

two things really stood out to me that i want to say. maybe more. first you must have a huge heart to have forgiven this boy. the second is you are not a bad or terrible mother you just love you son tomuch to let one of his friends suffer. and the thrid thing (so there is more) i cant speak for the boy but i myself killed a kid that was in my car and the his father ask the courts not to send me to jail he said he forgave me the second he heard but i still blame and hold my self fully accountable and have not forgave myself no matter what any one says. but like i said i can not speak for him

Is this coming from people that were close to your son? It is especially easy for people who do not have children of their own to point fingers of hatred in this sort of situation. I'm taking a guess here, but if your son's friend was of similar age as your son- its no wonder why you are worried for the boy. Its so easy to replace that boy's face with your son's. If you could prevent another mother from feeling the same loss, I'm sure you would. You have such a kind heart, Matthewsmom.

Call the boy and ask him over for supper or tell him directly that you want to talk. Bugger what other people think- they don't have to walk in your shoes everyday. They are just plain naive and don't know any better.

thank you so much everyone. (ciora) its my own family that hate me.