Accidents Support Group

I lost my son due to a accedent, an I know he didn' due this .it happened. I worry about him an how he's doing this is alot to carry around. but if like alc. was the reson it may be hard for them to here from you but if not then they might wont to know that you care an worry.

I was the driver of a vehicle and I wrote a letter but never gave it to the family. I just carried it around and finally I was by a river and read it aloud to the child that was killed then tore the letter into pieces and threw it in the river. Pray to God to lay it on your heart as to what you should do. God will give you signs if you open your eyes and ears. If there is legal issues involved such as lawsuit with the insurance companies it may be best to wait. You can always journal write a letter and not send for awhile. Listen to God, he will guide you.....Blessings

thank you for all your advice, i think i might have to wait it is just very hard because i want to badly to apologize to them,i am grateful that they were not seriously hurt like i was but i still feel a tremndous amout of guilt for hurting them in anyway maybe i will try a journal. thanks everyone

I THINK A LETTER IS A VERY GOOD IDEA. EVEN IF IT IS NOT ACCEPTED WITH A LOVING HEART, AT LEAST YOU WILL KNOW THAT IT WAS WRITEN WITH A LOVING HEART. PEOPLE ARE ALL DIFFERENT SOME WILL ACCEPT AN APOLLOGY OTHER WILL NOT. .
A LETTER DOES TWO THINGS. IT BRINGS SOME PEACE TO YOU AND HELPS YOU TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE VERY REMORSEFUL FOR WHAT HAPPENED. AND IT LETS THE GREIVING FAMILY KNOW THAT YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT THEM AND THAT YOU ARE SO VERY SORRY EVEN IF THEY DO NOT EXCEPT IT.

I lost my mother in a car accident in which the driver was drinking and made a reckless decision that took the lives of 2 people. After 3 years I would still like to hear I'm sorry or something to that effect. The pain never goes away but knowing someone is remorseeful for their actions helps the healing process. Without healing there is only pain and anger.

thanks..dish6 I have been working on the letter trying to find the exact words it is very hard because I feel so guilty and I dont know if there are the right words to express that to them, I hope that my letter will help them know I am extremely sorry and remorseful.
I thank you for letting me know that it would help you if they would ahve apologized. I am very sorry to hear about your mother that must have been extremely difficult and I can't imagine what that would be like, thank you again for your advice I really appericate it

Hi Meg-
I think writing a letter is a wonderful idea. My best friend was killed in in accident when he was only 18 years old. His, family and friends grieved for so long until one day they came to open their family bar and there was an anonymous letter for the person who had caused the accident,(none of us still have any idea who it was), but it helped everyone so much to know that that person had a heart and showed remorse.
I'm sorry you are hurting and I hope your heart heals soon.

That should say from the person who caused the accident...

I think its a great idea. I would do it, go ahead!

i lost my only child a son cody 20,a 19yr old pulled out in front of him and that was it my son was dead,i wish sometimes that boy would contact me and tell me hes sorry.i believe sometimes he really doesent care. write the letter even if u dont hear back u did the right thing. also let them no how it changed u. i miss and love u cody the love of my life