Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group

Hey Kristie,

I want you to remember something. God is holding YOU up, you are not going to let HIM down. Be strong IN THE LORD and in His mighty power. Without Him, we are weak and powerless.

Your cravings for union are natural and God-given, as long as they are consummated in the appropriate circumstance (marriage-covenant-bond).

I struggled, I waited, I struggled even more.... and a year to the day that we officially started dating, we had sex and it destroyed the relationship. Don't give in! Think about David and his trials.... the devil is a sneaky jerk, and he will whisper sweet nothings to you... don't listen!!!!

God places this test upon us to see if we have the discipline to make it work for the long haul. If we have the discipline to make it through this time, just imagine how much easier it will be if you have a rough time in your marriage? You'll know you have the discipline and fortitude to make it because you've done it before....

Have Faith! Pray for His help in this. He does provide!!!!!

look. Just have sex. If there is a god, he would want you to be happy. Right? And its unnatural to not have sex, it is according to my psychology textbook, one of the nescities of life. I am not endorsing rampant sex with multiple sex partners. I myself have only had sex with one women all through highschool and i was completly in love with her. I know there is a lot of bible hugging here but even so, as the nike comercial says, "JUST DO IT!"

Tortlawgirl: I want to thank you for your support and encouraging words. It means alot.

7years: Please don't take this the wrong way but I'm confused about something. I thought that this was supposed to be a support group for people trying to abstain from having sex for what ever reason they needed/wanted to abstain. Was I wrong?

I am crying out for help and support with something that is VERY difficult for me and you are telling me to do the very thing that I need help not doing. If this were a support group for recovering drug addicts and I was a drug addict crying out for help would you tell me to just go snort coke? I am seriously confused here, and I need help understanding your point of view.

Tortlawgirl, great reply!!
You are completely right, without the help of God we struggle with the sin of this world. I began a sexual relationship with my now husband a week after I moved in with him. It nearly tore us apart. We were so blessed that God gave us a beautiful daughter, the love for each other to be married before she was born, and now He has blessed us with another child. Yet the relationship we had before we were married gives us difficulties to this day (particularly in my hormonal pregnant state...)
Kristie, you are such a beautiful girl and you are looking for support here, well done for having the courage to reach and and ask when you are feeling weakness in your own strength. Tortlawgirl is so right, God will continue to give you the strength as you continue to ask for it. I will pray for you also hun.

7years - was this a serious piece of advice? Or do you just enjoy winding up people who are experiencing a fragile state of mind? Either way, that reply is both completely innapropriate and completely dismisses the request for help in this question. For your information, YES God DOES want us to be happy. YES He has made sex enjoybale to fulfil our desires of the flesh. And YES He created the institution of marriage for this purpose - where a woman is to obey her husband, and a husband is to love his wife as himself, to die to his own desires and make every decision for the benefit of his wife (and any children they have). It is rather sad that your only source for supporting your comment of sex outside of marriage -despite the request for support to abstain- is that sex is unnatural "according to my psychology textbook". Well, sex IS natural according to the word of God. "2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." Corinthians chapter 7 (KJV): "9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn."

My opinion is if you both truly love each other and you both want to get married then why wait? You don't have to be rich money wise to get married but you do have to be rich in love and from the sound of it you both are. Take care and all the best.

I agree. To wait is something that both of yall can give to each other. I also consider somewhat of a test of yall's faith to God and yourselves. When you say your "I do's" you are setting a bond between yall and God. Your choice to stay "pure" for each other is almost like a premarital bond between God and you both. I know what being unable to completly support yourself feels like. All I can say is pray, even in the darkest moment God lets light shine in. I can give testimony to that all night God is the most amazing force there ever was or will be he can create the most perfect life for you both. Just take every need you have to Him no matter how small or selfish you might think it is. God loves it when his people come to him, it lets him know you trust in him for you life and all you have is his.

Wow - what a great set of comments, cannot believe the 7 years guy quoting form a humanist psychology textbook to a lady struggling and needing help and encouragement! Yeah go snort coke to a recovering drug addict or a bottle of vodka for a AA member struggling! We all have God-given desires and healthy appetites which need controlling with His help. My late wife died 5 months ago and I am abstaining until He provides another beautiful woman for me to marry in His time. It is hard and I really would love to hold and love another woman, but believe in the sanctity of marriage and the purity of a life given to Him who gave Himself for us. We all need help - I guess thta's why we are here and it is so helpful to read of others' struggles.