What is Abstinence
Sexual abstinence is the practice of voluntarily refraining from some or all aspects of sexual activity. Common reasons to deliberately abstain from the physical expression of sexu...
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I have always been a devoted christian. I made a promise to myself and to god when i was a young girl that i would remain pure until marriage. But when i entered college at the young age of 17,i fell victim to peer pressure and the pressure to rise to others level of maturity around me. I was introduced to alcohol and lost my virginity to someone i was not in a relationship with. Ever since i have hated myself for what i have done, for betraying god and not being able to undo what cant be undone. Now that im 19, i want to take my vow to god to remain abstinent until marriage. I just want to know if its too late? or how do i go about this? i want to wear a purity ring to symbolise my commitment but would that make me a hyprocrite as i am not a virgin?
please any advise would be greatly appreciated. Becky, Posted on 09/20/08, 01:09 pm |
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no its not too late virginity is what u feel. u can be a 2nd time virgin. my friend(best) made a simliar mistake. but is recomitted. no u wud not be fake. dnt let othrs judge u for the past and stop being so hard on ur self
xoxo wishing u the best 
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Hello, Becky
No, it's not to late to reclaim your vow to remain on your vow to wait to until mairiage. To go about this as prettyfaced mentioned you must be committed with yourself and your relationship with God to remain focus as the journey along could be tuff sometimes. Secondly, dont worry about what others may think of you. Its your life to live, whose to judge it except god no anyone else. Enforcing qualities such as being confident in yourself, having positive support, watch you hang around as friends that's important to make your vow known in deed. You are the company you keep you need the right people around you not negative people as some people are. Believing in yourself and of course having faith. Wearing a purity ring is not being a hyprocrite being honest with yourself is the kekey. If you want to wear purity ring that's fine just make sure you know and always remeber the reasons why you have on you. I wish you sucess in luck in your journey Christa
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Hi Becky, I admire you for your decision to no longer engage in sex and remain abstinent until marriage. I think you could be a good role model for other young people who choose to do the same. My young sister also engaged in a sexual relationship between ages 17 an 18 (until my parents found out, put a stop to it, and the guy dumped her because he could not longer have sex with her). She deeply regretted her actions and is now 23, almost 24, and has remained celibate because she is now waiting until marriage. She finally found a guy now that might be "the one."
I am 25, still a virgin, and plan on waiting until marriage to the right person God has set aside for me. Remember, once she confess and repent of your sins, you are wiped clean of them in God's eyes. Enjoy your ''born-again virginity." Don't make yourself feel guilty over something that happened in the past and cannot be changed. I like the purity ring idea. I might decide to get one for myself.
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i have a abstinence ring i just bought a ring and declared it that and its so cute it has a bow on it )(i need 2 find it by the way)
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Becky, I'm almost twice your age. When I was 19, i was a party girl, and had tried every drug undwer the sun. Oh, yeah, then came the bad choices. I left my ex when my 13-year-old was less than 2 months. I have been celibate since then. It is never too late. You wear your ring, baby, and you wear it with pride. Remember every time you see it sparkle the gift you are giving yourself, and that future mate.
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Hi Musicgirl,
I respect you desire to remain celibate until you marry and I'm sorry you are badly about your one misstep. I guess I have a different persepctive on this. Keeping your viriginity until marriage does not guarantee a happy marriage. One, because of the type of marriage I had, men on the down low (closeted gay men and yes there are Chrisian men in the closet) your type if one of their favorite targets. You have little experience with sex so marrying you is a very good cover. Little experience so you don't really know what good sex is going to be like. I've gotten to the point in my life that I just don't trust or like men in general. Men are wired entirely and to expect otherwise will lead you to disspointment.
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i would like to commend you on taking such an oath. and i think its great that you are saving yourself for your one...and im sorry for your peer pressure and that yur feeling bad.
hunny people who love you wont judge you by your past. and life is hard enough. stop beating yourself up over this please. hannah
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I made a pledge to myself to stay a virgin until I find the right girl. I'm the only one of my friends still a virgin and they tease me about it all the time and at times it gets to me but in the end I feel better for it because I can't picture enjoying sex with random girls I barely know, I want a connection.
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