ADHD / ADD Support Group

I can certainly see that, particularly if you are in a business where calls lead to stress. I don't think this is ADD but is associated with it. I think you have to push yourself to recognize

1) any problem or issue that is not dealt with can become worse, and the lack of response is worse than the underlying issue,

2) be honest with people but also assertive. Thanks for the 4th call mom, but no I have no plans to go out with anyone this week, and I do not need your assistance in finding someone. Be pleasant, but do not get too caught up in their responses or perceived ones.

Did anything happen to bring it on, or is it just a 'I don't feel so confident today' day?

are you being treated for ADD, meds or other? If this is ADD paralysis I know it well......

I take Vyvance and an anti-anxiety med. I never noticed myself doing this before, but I didn't notice a lot of things. I hadn't heard ADD paralysis... Seems like an appropriate term for what I'm feeling. How do you go about getting past it?

Although there are a lot of things associated with ADD (I have adult ADD and ADHD, yay for me) I believe that there may be other factors effecting you being anti-social.

While many people with ADD may be anti-social, I don't think it is because they have ADD, I think it is their personality. Everyone is not an extrovert and being anti-social is not necessarily a bad thing. HOWEVER, if it IS because of your ADD, it is something that can be dealt with in time.

I say this because you stated that this was a recent thing. Although you have adult ADD meaning you were probably not diagnoses until adulthood, that does not mean it is why you are anti-social especially if it is only recently because ADD does not just develop as an adult, if you have it, you hav had it all your life, you just did not realize you did.

As adults, we all deal with stress on so many levels. When you combine that with the fact that you have ADD, espeically as we say ADULT ADD (or ADHD or, like myself both) that can psychologically in itself be stressful.

For some, the knowledge of their diagnoses is a relief because it explains things they never understood. But for many, it becomes a source or worry, stress and dispair because you begin to channel in on something being wrong with you. Although I don't think it's a negative thing, it took me a while to get to that place and when things are not necessarily a part of the norm, is not understood or is looked at as a medical issue, we tend to more concerned about it.

Know that is is perfectly fine and normal to feel anti-social. However, unless you fear it is something that is leading towards something serious like depression or extra stress (and believe it or not, stress kills) then I would just chop it up to you just not wanting to be bothered and you know what, that is ok. We all go through that from time to time.

Have a blessed day! :-)

There are a lot of other co-morbid conditions that ADD can cause or happen with. I know that ADD has hurt my confidence level, blurting out all the time, not being able to follow group convos. I developed an anxiety disorder because of my ADD. However therapy really helps and so do meds. As I got older I went from more external symptoms to internal. Also, I had some problems when I first went on meds because I was noticing things I had never noticed before. That made me less confident for a while. What I find that helps is to remember there is no such thing as "normal" and everyone is just as scared as you are. Most people have really low confidence. It seems like ADDers have higher standards for themselves than others have for themselves. We are very very forgiving of others but really hard on ourselves. Oh well hope this helps and I hope you are doing better.

Tom

Me too anti-social and obsessive compulsive perfectionist. Which means I never get anything done! Hope u do!