ADHD / ADD Support Group

I feel your pain. My children have not played with our next door neighbor's children for years because of a few "insidence".
As hard as it may seem now. It will get easier as time goes on . Maybe your two families will be able to work it out or maybe not. Either way, hang in there and keep trying. Your child can not learn how to maintain relationships if he is isolated. Be strong and always remember god only gives you what you can handel and "special children" are only given to strong parents.

As I read your post, I swear, I nearly fell out of my chair. My son made friends with a boy in school and I met the family and they were the 'religous family' as well... I thought, hmm, they cant be THAT bad. Pshh, she too told my son that he had the devil in him because HER son had lied!! I was like really? Are you kidding me? WHO tells a 9 year old that???? If you "worship GOD" (which I believe, but do not practice) than you would want to "spread the word and love of GOD", not insult and scare the crap out of a child!! NO WONDER THEY HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM!!
Sit back and tell me one thing... Is your son the boy who enjoys watching movies (maybe Star Wars or Harry Potter) and being creative? Chances are, he is surrounded by the little neanderathals that now fill the classrooms. The children who talk back to their parents because they think they run their house (EVERYONE'S child gives a little lip back, you know what I mean here)... The children who dont want to share their toys because they are selfish (once again, to an extent most children are territorial)... Chances are, its not your son. Take a peek around you, spend some time with the other kids (invite them over, etc). I PROMISE YOU!!! You will realize its NOT your child thats the problem (completely :) ). It's there are no decent children around for them to relate to. The other children are probably going out of their way to get YOUR kid in trouble to make THEIR little bad a$$ look good. He probably knows these kids are bad news and doesnt want to associate himself with them anyway. And heck yea, he's probably lonely because of that. All you can do really is explain that some children act like that because their parents dont care. Emphasize the fact its NOT HIM. I got my son into baseball and he met some good kids there. Take him to the park, let him mingle with a variety of kids. Most of all, let him be him. :) Maybe a great place to start would be counceling. Lets start building up his self esteem!! Teach him that positive actions cause positive results. Good luck my friend!

If their son has a problem, fine, the two had a fight The other kid's mother went way beyond the line in what she said. You should have came down on the mother, not your son; her behavior was what was most inappropriate.

When I read this it just really made me mad for two reasons, first of all I'm also a Christian and a Mother of a child with ADHD (actually worse then just that). So first of all as a Christian she should be as forgiving to especially a child as Jesus was to her. Secondly she should be more understanding especially as a parent of a special needs child. If she wants to talk about being on Satans path and needing to repent how about a woman who would put a child though that. How would she feel if someone gave her child that speech for something he couldn't control at the time that was as inocent as a few words. grrr

I am right with you I feel like I have to continuely apologize to stangers in public because of the way my son acts. My son has no friends either, I don't have any friends. When we go to church I go into his class with him so that his teachers don't have to deal with him, because when they do I feel guilty because he is my child and my responsiblity. vent any time this is the place to do it.

I have one better. My daughter was very very good friends with two girls who's mother is huge in a Christian Baptist church. This is a street church who profess to accept anyone no matter if they are homeless or alcoholics or child molesters. Well as part of the friendship of my daughter and these girls,we started attending this church. The mother also watched my daughter after school (paid pretty well for it). Well one day my daughter refused to read and this woman went psycho on her to the point that my daughter ran out of the house and to a safe place. My daughter was told that she didn't deserve to live with her parents,that she was stupid and didn't try etc. etc. etc.......the kicker to this....we have been asked by this "accept anyone" church to not attend we are no longer welcome.

I know how you feel.. The stress of having my son with other children. He can't keep his hands off. Now we keep him at home as much as we can. My husband and I take turns on staying with him. It's hard. I worried about when he starts a new school in the fall.

Thank you so much for your encouragement. I know God gave me this child for a reason even though I don't feel equipped!

My oldest son is ADHD and we are very religious. I cant understand anyone sayign anything like that to a 9 year old. Kids have issues, get in fights, and then are best friends a few days later. I wonder if her son has asbergers (SP?) if maybe she is sensitive and was over reacting? I am sorry this happened to you and your son. I hope he knows hes not on satans path.

Wow, the mother is the one that is on Satan's path. Verbally abusing children is just as wrong as physical abuse. Damaging a child's self esteem is long lasting. Bottom line, all kids get into fights. It doesn't matter if they have ADHD, Aspergers, or are "normal"...all kids get into fights. The way that mother dealt with it did not teach the kids anything and it hurt your son. Shame on her. I have three kids and from my experience it is usually the kids that are able to work things out and overcome their differences if the PARENTS don't step in and mess things up. That mother is the one that should be writing you and your son an apology letter. God is forgiving and understanding, and she seems like she is neither. You are not a failure as a parent! You care, which is obvious, and that is the most important thing. All you can do is do your best and don't worry. Your son will be fine because he has a mom like you! Vent anytime, that is what we are here for. TTFN!

I think the Christian aspect of the situation is irelavent. I remember being isolated when I was a kid, and I knew I was. Only once did I spend the night ar a friends house. To much for most to handle. your neighbors are just jerks. Nothing more. If one kid calling another a liar upsets them to that degree, they must be thinned skinned. For one thing, your not a failure, or you would not be online venting as you are. My wife says the same thing as a spouse and mother all the time. After 23 years she's been to hell in back with my. IT'S NOT HER FAULT OR YOURS. Your son does things I am sure that you think are controlable. some may be, but some are not. It's your job to find out when he's gaming you or not. I know, At 43 I still do goofy things that are as my wife says"nuts." Good luck.