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Does anyone have a child who has ADHD as well a mood disorder?My 12.5 yr old son has both AND has a language disorder and we had to stop his medication(Vyvanse) because of his mood disorder.His Psychiatrist said that since it(Vyvanse) is a stimulant it would make his mood disorder worse so we had to medicate him for his Mood disorder first.She wanted him on Depakote ER and I immediately was hesitant that she wanted me son on such a strong medicine.I don't know what to do?Should I medicate my son for his ADHD with a non-stimulant or medicate him for his mood disorder?Because I have not been sure what to do,he has been on nothing and it has been very stressful because of his anger and constant mood changes.Any suggestions would help GREATLY!
Posted on 05/13/11, 03:39 pm
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Reply #1 - 05/13/11  7:59pm
" I would seek a Mood disorder specialist in your area, ODD specialist or even an ED specialist. Research all medications and the side effects. Your local hospital or Childrens Hospital may be able to help with referring you to the doctors that specialize in mood disorders. I hope this is helpfull. "
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Reply #2 - 05/13/11  9:11pm
" I think that anger goes with ADD no matter what.
It sounds like all the kids these days have both of them. "
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Reply #3 - 05/13/11  9:46pm
" Sad but true. The anger comes from being mis-understood, feeling they cant do anything right. My son once said, "I dont know why I cant help it". UGH! I wanted to take the hurt away. He has a gentle soul with lots of energy. Some children with aggressive anger may have ODD, or ED. I have seen children diagnosed with only ADHD, really hurt others while haveing tantrums. Was it the medication, behavior or a related disorder? Its so hard on us parents. "
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Reply #4 - 05/15/11  3:22pm
" Traciecornett...Thank you for the suggestion.The Psychiatrist who wanted my son is Depakote was a Dr from the childrens Hosp here in Phoenix.I thought since that hospital was known for its great medical care,that my son was in the best hands.His Psychiatrist said that his mood disorder is borderline Bi-Polar.She took into consideration his behaviors & family history.I have since though found a clinical social worker.I do not feel it is in the best interests of my son's well-being to go back to her.The Clinical social workers appealed to me because they provide services for the prevention, diagnosis, and treatment of mental, behavioral, and emotional disorders in individuals, families, and groups.I talked to her and got a good feeling from her.I look forward to working with her.I think she can help my son and the rest of us as well. "
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Reply #5 - 05/16/11  11:19am
" traciecornett
yes you are absolutely correct that the anger comes from being misunderstood.
I think for me I was so quiet and never said anything or got angry but I was angry inside that no one loved or understood me.
My mom always said that I had the quiet ADD. "
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Reply #6 - 05/16/11  11:57am
" I can see that in my son.I tell him EVERYDAY I LOVE HIM & I try to show it by being patient and talking to him & reasoning with him.I TRY to draw him out as much as I can by asking questions or saying something that will appeal to him that wil lmake him WANT to express himself..sometimes I KNOW he hears me,other times,it's as if I'm talking to a brick wall!And I am JUST Mom to him,so anything I say is wrong anyways.I think talking to someone else will be good for him.He talks to his Dad too,but doesn't open up as much as he does to me.So hopefully this other person get the scoop.It makes me sad that you felt like that and that my son may feel that way at times!I feel I am doing all I can to show him how much I love him and that I am also going to great lengths to trry to understand him!It's so frustrating! :( "
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Reply #7 - 05/17/11  11:50pm
" TJAM, my mother and I still talk about my childhood and how frustrated she felt trying to help me. What she didn't know was how much I loved her and I saw how much she tried. Because of the ADD I couldn't put into words how I felt. I was really surprised when she told me how she felt she had failed me! What she didn't know was how my world hinged on her...I wouldn't be surprised if your son feels the same way.

The language disorder is hard. I have seen adhd kids not be able to speak words but just utterances resembling words. (And he 'talked' alot!) I have had times when I couldn't control the loudness of my voice (I was 24). "
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Reply #8 - 05/18/11  10:02am
" kaerjo Its so nice to hear that your mom really tried with you.
I feel differently about my mom although I do think she tried it was hard for her to know what to do. I was the only ADD person that we ever knew and she really did act like it was some awful disease. I think she helped me the only way she knew how. She told me all the time that I would never be as good as anyone else and in her mind she was helping me because she said she hated to see me expect things and then get dissappointed later when I would realize that I was not as good as anyone else.
I don't think its the best way to go about it but this was her method.
Little did she know how it would ruin me for life. "
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Reply #9 - 05/18/11  11:50am
" kaerjo:Thank you so much for telling me that!I often do wonder if my son sees all that I am trying to do to help him.I hope he understands too that I am doing this because I love him so much and I just want him to succeed in life.I think you are right by saying he may not know how to express his appreciation in words.His language disorder makes that hard for him to do.He knows what he wants to say,just can't quite get around to conveying it in the way he wants too!I know he appreciates what I am doing for him and I know he loves me...I just needed a reaffirmation from someone(you) who went through similar trials to bring me back to what I already know about my son.THANKS! :) "
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Reply #10 - 05/18/11  7:12pm
" singles, sorry to hear your childhood was difficult. Moms dont always know how to help or know the right words to say. I am glad you are able to see it was not your fault or hers for not knowing. Your story will help parents with how they speak to children Words can effect your esteem and values. ADD/ADHD children can also learn through your story. Just because someone says you cant do something doesnt mean they are right. So many sucsessfull people have this disorder and are sucessful because ADD/ADHD is only one part of their whole self. Doctors, lawyers, actors, teachers etc. Whoever you are, ADHD is not the whole you, only a small part. Its what you do with it. "

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