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I had inpluses that i had acted on (of a sexuall nature)and had came clean to my wife 4 years ago , she has used it agianst me ever since . I am and will countiue to go to teripy and have been in school for three years now . I found that when this summer had come that my wife had finily had enough of me ( even though I'm getting better),she would go out with to bars with the girl friends (drinking buddies ) and would leave me at home to wacth the kids ALL the time . I couldn't take it anymore , there isn't any respect there for me ,I felt I had to go , I did make an honest atempt at talking to her but with no availe . This is having serious afeacts on my personal well being , I'm trying to keep my mind into the school work but am finding it very difficult at times . I also have had thoughts that I would be better off dead or to just run away. I really want to fight the urges to do so by thinking of the kids . She said that she isn;t going to make any major decissions untill a years time ( which is this summer comming up. Dam this sucks , Oh and I diagnosed her as having a narrisit personality, she fits the bill. But then I have to look at my own behavers as well , now that i've had some time away from herI can see that my behavour has been eradic but the change in me didn;t seem to be doing it for her . Since i;ve left I've lost 40 plus pounds and have been walking more . It's just that I get these days where all I want to do is lay down and give up, but the dam ADHD won't let me/
Posted on 10/01/09, 06:10 pm |
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You are in a crap situation that many ADHD husbands are in, I am in something sort of similar and separation has been on the table many times but our 3 yr old kid is putting a hold on things. So this issue can be discussed forever without really getting anywhere, because it is too screwed up to qualify for a normal discussion. Time apart will answer many questions, and you being clear with her through talk or email about what you are going through and that your misbehaving was due to your illness.....and supporting that with research docs. and maybe get her a book about couples in this situation one is supposed to be amazing by Gina Perrera. that is all you can do.............to my knowledge......this ADD can be very ugly sometimes..... 
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I'm confused about something: are you disappointed in your wife's reaction? Cheating is very serious. You're lucky she didn't kill you.
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You definately need to tell your doctor about your suicidal thoughts. Eventhough you are going through a tough time, that isn't normal. I know first hand.
What you did was serious..but...if what you are doing to make this up to your wife isn't good enough for her then moving out was a good idea. She will throw that in your face for the rest of your life and you don't need that. You made a mistake, move on! Focus on the kids.
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Yeah, I agree with Katherine's post... it's tougher to move on when the mistake that was made was our own, but it's necessary. Moving on and getting on with your life after breaking up with someone you could've sworn you were in love with is difficult in any case, but it feels so good to move on...
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By the way screwing around is wrong in theory at least, as it's a crazy world out there.................but as much as the women here will hate me I can say that coming clean about something like this without being caught in the act is stupid.......as it is high risk......even though ethically it is logical...... conscience after the act is too late anyway....
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